cupoftea Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 How do another people (you who's reading this) deal with people who give you mixed messages? Just to add more... My guy did the same thing. I mean, he acted all in love with me beforehand. And I think it was "genuine" to a degree. I mean, not that he was actually in love with me. But his excitement about me was genuine. He had liked me (lightly anyway) for about six months before I started liking him. He talked about wanting to spend time with me and thinking I was beautiful, etc., etc. He used to dote on me on Facebook all the time. "Liking" my statuses, commenting on things. We were good pals/friends/buddies. Then I became attracted to him, liked him back, and had sex with him. And ever since, (it's been two months now), he's gone cold. We are still friends on Facebook because I refuse to give him the satisfaction of "anger" or "being openly heartbroken," but it pisses me off that he was a normal person before we had sex and completely freaked out after we had sex. And the guy, I assure you, is not a player. He doesn't even have much experience with women, sexually or romantically. And he's a nice guy, personality-wise. He just completely confused, angered, and saddened me by going weird on me after we had a good time having sex with each other. Ugh.
Author ja123 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 UPDATE: So long after ... He got back from Europe. I called. He said he had a really nice time with me, but that he's no good with relationships and intimacy. He said he complicates his life and that he would need years of therapy. But, I've been very affected by all this ... I wish I was more cavalier.
Author ja123 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 What a jackass. ... (Major issues as far as I am concerned- on his part).... ... What can you do about someone that feels like that? .... Yes, he clearly has issues and he's admitted it. There's nothing you can do about how someone else feels or sees the world. It's unfortunate for me, as I'm just getting back into dating. And truthfully, I was hoping he would be the one because I honestly don't know if I feel like dating. It is such a hassle!
thatone Posted September 21, 2011 Posted September 21, 2011 UPDATE: So long after ... He got back from Europe. I called. He said he had a really nice time with me, but that he's no good with relationships and intimacy. He said he complicates his life and that he would need years of therapy. But, I've been very affected by all this ... I wish I was more cavalier. why call him? he was at least honest about the fact that he has serious mental problems. but you had to figure that so i don't see what the point in talking to him again was. let...it...go.
Author ja123 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 Just to add more... And the guy, I assure you, is not a player. He doesn't even have much experience with women, sexually or romantically. And he's a nice guy, personality-wise. Yeah, this guy isn't a player either. He even said he was a bit of a prude.
Author ja123 Posted September 21, 2011 Author Posted September 21, 2011 (edited) why call him? he was at least honest about the fact that he has serious mental problems. but you had to figure that so i don't see what the point in talking to him again was. let...it...go. Yes, I know, you're right. It's so much easier to make sense of other people's situations than one's own. That's why I'm on here, not only to offer feedback, but to get feedback from others and work through some of my issues. The issue I'm having now is my own fear of getting back into the dating game. For that, I may just start a new thread. Edited September 21, 2011 by ja123
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