Tippytoes Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Me and my girlfriend have been broken up for 2 months, but instead of changing relationship status to single we have both just chosen to hide our status. I dont know what to do, if I change it to single I am telling her that I am done and dont want to work on things and it will cause her to get fed up and just leave me for good or if it will make her feel threatened and feel like she is losing me so that she would come back to me. I feel that as long as we both have in a relationship with each other even though it is hidden there is still a chance that she will come back... My birthday is next week and I figured that if she doesnt call me than I should just change it, but I should wait. What should I do?
smudge21 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Screw Facebook - since when does a website dictate peoples lives and relationships. Change your status to married to confuse her.. who cares. The only thing that should matter is how you two are with each other, not over some pathetic internet page. Who left who and what was the reasons? Without this information it's hard to say what the best course of action could be. Either way, seriously dude, don't be putting Facebook in charge of your actions. This is real life, that's just html.
Dblock10 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 face book doesnt mean anything mate. people dont really care about it. its a teenage thing to believe it means something to someone. its just to show others what your status is i guess
flitzanu Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 i'm with smudge. make your status public and change it to "engaged". that will make her think twice about hiding her status!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
smudge21 Posted August 22, 2011 Posted August 22, 2011 Do what I did - change it from "in a relationship" to "engaged" then "married" followed by "it's complicated" to finally "widowed" and asking people if they know how to dispose of a very large bin bag! Basically, Facebook is just for fun - it should never be taken seriously. Now I'm off to update my status to "... oops, just ran over a hooker!"
Nsweet Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Facebook has actually been proven to create jealousy in some people due to the massive amounts of private information and daily activity explored at the click of a mouse. It will really cause problems if you let it. I went through this same issue after a fight where my wife changed her status to "it's complicated" and I had to hear about it from nosey family members. To make things worse she had a online friend that just wouldn't stop trying to discreetly pick her up, that is until the divorce papers when he made things perfectly clear and she blocked him for good. I say why not leave her on your friend list, leave everything as it is, and just stay the hell away from facebook for a few months. You can leave your options open to contact her later and help with NC as well. If you start to miss facebook you could an alter ego page or post in a forum where opinion really matters. Not that mindless crap of "John Doe-Likes Pepsi. Whooo! Jane Doe-likes this [thumbs up]." Really guy and you wonder why other countries make fun of us.
Author Tippytoes Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 Thanks man... I think Im just gonna let it be for a while and If I feel ballsy enough I will just change it to spark something. hopefully she will become really jelous and come back and not the opposite where she just gets mad and wants to find someone else in spite
flitzanu Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Thanks man... I think Im just gonna let it be for a while and If I feel ballsy enough I will just change it to spark something. hopefully she will become really jelous and come back and not the opposite where she just gets mad and wants to find someone else in spite still thinking you're missing the point here, you ARE NOT WITH HER and need to quit worrying about "making her mad" with what you do on FACEBOOK. if she's that shallow and immature...then do you really want to be with her? if anything, you should post your status as "single" because that's the truth. if she doesn't want to deal with it, that's her problem not yours.
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