Ex-girlfriend dumped me but texted me today, is there still a chance?

[hearthurt]

My ex-girlfriend broke up with me about two months ago. We had been in a relationship for just over a year, with 9 of those months being long distance. We met in college, she graduated last year and this is my last year of school, i'm 22 and she's 24. We live about 18 hours away now as she moved for a job in the south. The break up definitely took me by surprise as i wasn't expecting it at all, we were making plans to celebrate our anniversary, looking at flights and hotels together for me to fly over. Yes we'd had a few arguments in the weeks prior to the break up but i didn't think they were serious enough for us to break up. I really believe that the long distance is what caused our break up, i know long distance was really hard for her and maybe it was taking a toll. She said when she broke up with me that she wouldn't rule out the possibility of us trying again if we ever ended up in the same place.

 

Throughout our relationship we'd always said that if we broke up that we would remain friends. But after we broke up i went NC then LC for a couple of weeks, blocking her on facebook, twitter, gchat - because i really needed the time to heal and i couldn't stand to see pics of her or statuses about going out and having fun. But i told her that i was going LC on her before i did it and let her know that it wasn't forever i just needed a little bit of time. She said she understood. After a couple of weeks i called her to say hi and she acted really distant and said that she needed space. I was confused at first because she was the one that had always said that she'd want us to stay friends, but i understood. A couple of days later i sent her an email asking her if she just needed some space and then we could work on being friends or whether this was gonna be one of those break ups where we don't talk to each other ever again. She didn't reply.

 

A week later i sent her another email telling her that she was pushing me away and that i really want to be a part of her life, even if it's just as friends because i still love and care about her and couldn't imagine not having her in my life. I told her she was one of my best friends and reminded her of all the great times we'd had together. Still no reply. At this point i was going crazy with her not responding to anything, so i sent her another email a few days later telling her that it's clear she's ignoring me and that she wasn't acting like the person i fell in love with. I told her that i couldn't keep reaching out to her and getting rejected and that i'm done and wish her all the best. After this i was emotionally and mentally drained and just so incredibly depressed. I just couldn't believe that she called it off but wouldn't even give me the time of day, i'd done nothing wrong.

 

The past few weeks i've been miserable but trying my best to get over her, going out with friends, working out at the gym every other day, drowning myself in work. I texted her this morning asking her to mail me some clothes that i left at her place because i needed it for a special event next week. And i told her that i know she's not talking to me but i need to know if i will have these clothes for the event or not, so to let me know whether she can send them.

 

I wasn't expecting a response but she texted back saying that yes she could mail them and it wouldn't be a problem. She texted again saying "it's not that i don't want to talk to you. I just don't know how to separate our relationship from just being friends and i'm hoping that time makes it easier". Then she texted again saying "I think about everything you said in the emails a ton, they really effect me. But i don't know how to respond to them"

 

I haven't texted her back but what does this mean? I love her and i really want us to get back together, is this a chance for me to make a move? Or am i reading too much into it? What do i say? Please help.

[Chi townD]

Let her go! Dude, you're letting your life pass you by waiting for this girl that you don't have a relationship with anymore. What do you hope to gain being friends with her? Do you want her to tell you about the dozen roses that she received from her current boyfriend at work with a card that says," don't making any plans this weekend because I'm taking you to a Bed and Breakfast?" Because, friends tell friends stuff like that. The two of you faced two seperate roads a Y in the road if you will. She went down her road that has her in a carrer and living inpendently while your standing at your road looking down at hers seeing if she'll turn around and come back. It hasn't happened and probably won't. Sorry dude, time to heal from this and start walking down your road.

[EgoJoe]

Dude, you want a chance?

 

Listen to ChiTownD and then perform damage control.

 

"You're right it would be too hard and I was trying to put us into a position to re-establish attraction and boundaries because I had hoped to repair things. Seeing your apprehension has made me realize that this will never work. All the best P.S. send the clothes whenever you can I will figure something else out."

[hearthurt]

Thanks for the advice guys, i really appreciate it. I texted her back saying " honestly i've been waiting for you because i was hoping that we could have another chance, but i don't think that's what you want so i have to learn to let you go"

 

I feel miserable, but i hope this is for the best.