What do I do?

[Youlovecindy]

Ok so here goes...

In high school I dated a guy for like a week, he was more into it than I was so I broke up with him. About a year or so later he comes back into my life still looking to date me again. I wasn't ready to say yes or no at the time, I did like him, I just wanted to take it slow. Something happened during that time (not relevant to the story) and we ended up never being in contact again.

Fast forward to now... 9 years later, me now 24 and him 27, he remembered where I lived and came looking for me. We hit it off real quick and things started getting very serious. At this point I am a single mother of a 2 month old baby girl with the father not in the picture and he is separated from his wife. She is 40 something... she has 3 children of her own from a previous marriage and none with him. He told me that was the reason for separating bc she couldn't give him a baby, which is his biggest dream. So she set him free. He came to me being so sure of what he wanted, telling me that I am the love of his life, that he's never forgotten me, that he would always think and dream of me and blah blah blah.

Ok, so I fell in love with him in a very short time, we were making plans to get married in the future and already looking for rings and talking about our lives together. A little more than a month into it, things started getting a little weird. His ex-wife or stil wife or w/e was contacting him wanting him back. This made him really confused because he thought things were settled. By this time I moved out of my parents and he brought me to live with his parents temporarily. I agreed to move things along so quickly only because I saw that he was so sure and because I honestly thought he was ready for this, like I was, to make our lives together.

Anyways, one morning he wakes up kisses me goodbye and goes off to work, or so I thought. He calls me a couple hours after leaving saying he is at the airport on his way to Hawaii (where his wife is at, where he used to live). He said he would come back and he was only going to finally settle things with her. So he comes back after 10 days or so and everything seems fine. Oh I forgot to mention, this whole time we have been trying to get pregnant (pre-wife coming back into the picture). So when he came back I did end up being pregnant, only to lose it a week or so into it. We went to the doc together to confirm. So we kept trying. During his week back I found out he had sex with his ex-wife and she is now saying she is pregnant. Supposedly in this short amount of time he was been with me in Texas, she had an operation and now she miraculously is pregnant.

Now we are I am in the situation where I don't know if I am pregnant again, we have to wait 2 weeks to check. But the point is that he is extremely confused as to what to do, and so am I. His ex-wife refuses to send some sort of confirmation from a doc that in fact she is pregnant and wants him to just believe it. He feels like he should go back and see if she is and whatnot. I however, feel that if he does go he will never come back. I am thinking of moving back with my parents, but this is not what i wanted and what we had planned, i would have never ever done this if i knew that he was going to be so confused about things now! In all of this I have more to lose, and I don't know what the h to do! My point is do I wait for him and stick it out or do I just go back home and forget about him. I told him that if we were to breakup, I could never be his friend and that I wouldnt want any contact with him. That's where I am struggling with this decision. If I move back home, I don't know if I am strong enough to never talk to him again, or that I will be patient enough to wait. I think I have given him many opportunities and have given him whatever he wants, we have done things his way. Should I wait because what if he genuinely is confused or should i just forget it??????