Author clovess Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 If you feel you need to, then send him an email or letter - don't speak to him as you won't get the words out. It will be too hard. Don't keep any doors open in the letter though - none of that, call me if you want rubbish. You've got to say goodbye properly and mean it, otherwise there's no point as all you're doing is saying hi. If he says he wants to delete all contact then there's your answer. As tough as it sounds but you have to accept the facts as they stand now and there is a good chance this is it, it is over. I know how hard that is to deal with, but until you do face that you're never going to start healing. Having some hope cling on is normal, I still do despite everything. She's getting married next year and I try not to think about it. Even with that knowledge I still have hope, but I know the moment that date comes all that hope is forever gone, but hopefully by then I'll have moved on and be in a better place. This is not going to be easy for you and you do need someone close who you can talk to. Please consider seeking professional help; someone who understands the pain you're going through. It's confidential and no one will ever know, but you need more than just this website to deal with this. you're right it's over. When I keep myself busy I'm fine, it's just when I'm home alone, go to bed, or wake up that I'm feeling so heartbroken. I'm really sick of being hurt and walking after him like some desperate person though. I just want to stop it but I just can't stop my feelings for him.. Reading other threats help, seeing that boys can love someone so much too, let me know there is someone out there for me. I'll always hope for him to come back though, and I'll always take him back. I'm not sure if I'll send him a mail, maybe just ignore him from now but I'm not sure. I know the only change he might come back is NC.. but it could also mean I lose him forever. I'll think about it well no one wanted this lesson in life. so horrible and I really need some love, know that people care about me Thank you a lot for your support, it really helps me I'm trying not to look at his twitter profile but sometimes I can't resist it, I just looked and he's talking to another girl, it kills me..
smudge21 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 You're going through all the same terrible things we all go through, male or female. It doesn't matter, when faced with a break up, we all suffer. Feeling the way you do just shows that you truly did love him, and still do. That hurt will go eventually, but the memories won't. NC will strengthen you too and you will learn from all this. Plus, it's my belief that in life we have to have these bad times, so that we can appreciate the good and learn to make the most of them. Those that just have plain dull lives, without these ups and downs, in my opinion aren't really living life. They're just watching it go by. Try not to do the social network spying stuff. That only leads to hurt. I read my ex's wedding plans on there... believe me, that's a pain I wouldn't wish on anyone. You will get through this just like the rest of us, just believe in yourself and accept that it's okay to feel the way you do.
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