irc333 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 There had been instances where a woman would have a couple of photos a bit more revealing than the others and in my email, I would compliment them on their characteristic only to see later the picture was taken down. I was wondering if she'd received comments from men in regards to their more revealing photo showing off their assets. Like some would be taking a pic in a mirror, pointing their butt to the cam, arching their back, or perhaps showing off their topside, (ie - cleavage revealing, showing off their cleavage, bikini photo, etc) Do you think they realized that they were drawing the kind of attention they did not want and decided to remove said photo?
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Please, unless they were incredibly dense or just plain dumb, they knew exactly what kind of attention they'd get. Of course they'd get their share of creepers, but they are simply trying to improve the value of their stock to men they normally wouldn't be able to pull. I find it utterly hilarious when a woman says in her profile that she isn't looking for a hookup or doesn't want a guy who is just after sex; but half her pics show half her boobs... Other trends I've noticed are that the less attractive they are, the more skin they show...the heavier they are, the more skin they show...the less educated they are, the more skin they show...the more kids they have, the more skin they show...the less generally desirable they are, the more skin they show...notice a pattern here...? They seem to think that revealing pics will make up for their lack of any other attractive qualities. I think it's the average guy calling them out on their insecurities that leads them to taking down the pics...not necessarily the compliments... I feel this is closely related to my other thread about how people, particularly women, tend to overvalue themselves in online dating. Throw up a few revealing pics, and suddenly she rates the top 5% of men on the dating site.
phineas Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 This is why I hid my POF profile. Nothing but women showing half their boobs.
Author irc333 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 This is why I hid my POF profile. Nothing but women showing half their boobs. Yeah, I have to say, I just saw a nice, hi REZ photo of a redhead, in a MAXIM Magazine-type photo....her back facing the camera only, long red hair flowing down her back, and a hot little denim mini-skirt with her arms up around her head in a sexy pose. Nicely and professionally done I have to day though.
Easyguy14 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 There had been instances where a woman would have a couple of photos a bit more revealing than the others and in my email, I would compliment them on their characteristic only to see later the picture was taken down. I was wondering if she'd received comments from men in regards to their more revealing photo showing off their assets. Like some would be taking a pic in a mirror, pointing their butt to the cam, arching their back, or perhaps showing off their topside, (ie - cleavage revealing, showing off their cleavage, bikini photo, etc) Do you think they realized that they were drawing the kind of attention they did not want and decided to remove said photo? most women on online sites aren't really interested in dating anyone. they use the sites for validation mostly from my experience. the taking down of the pictures is just them feeling insecure about something in them from a guy or two making comments. dont take these online women seriously.
Author irc333 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 Yeah, I have to say, I just saw a nice, hi REZ photo of a redhead, in a MAXIM Magazine-type photo....her back facing the camera only, long red hair flowing down her back, and a hot little denim mini-skirt with her arms up around her head in a sexy pose. Nicely and professionally done I have to day though. Too funny, she just took down all those hot, steamy photos of herself. lol
Author irc333 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 most women on online sites aren't really interested in dating anyone. they use the sites for validation mostly from my experience. the taking down of the pictures is just them feeling insecure about something in them from a guy or two making comments. dont take these online women seriously. True, there's a couple of women, one I seen recently....she even had a way for you to get a hold of her on FB to see more of her pictures. It was more about "showing off" than having any desire to date, even though their profile says they're looking for someone. They're turning a dating site into a social networking site basically. I've seen some where all their photos were swimsuit photos, taken professionally.
Star Gazer Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 They seem to think that revealing pics will make up for their lack of any other attractive qualities. I feel this is closely related to my other thread about how people, particularly women, tend to overvalue themselves in online dating. Throw up a few revealing pics, and suddenly she rates the top 5% of men on the dating site. Yes to the first statement. As to the second statement, you're contradicting yourself. They clearly don't value themselves, hence the revealing outfits to make up for everything they lack.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 It might have been an experiment... See which guys email her based on her pics... then 'unselect' them from future consideration. I've done that. I never posted anything revealing or sexual... but did post pictures that showed what my figure looks like. It was interesting... men that I knew had been online for quite awhile never even LOOKED at my profile when it didn't have pics. Then all of a sudden, they are emailing all interested. Like a bug zapper... works great to eliminate men who are drawn mostly by looks. ZAAPPPP!!
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 True, there's a couple of women, one I seen recently....she even had a way for you to get a hold of her on FB to see more of her pictures. It was more about "showing off" than having any desire to date, even though their profile says they're looking for someone. They're turning a dating site into a social networking site basically. I've seen some where all their photos were swimsuit photos, taken professionally. Nothing wrong with social networking...
Author irc333 Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 It was interesting... men that I knew had been online for quite awhile never even LOOKED at my profile when it didn't have pics. Then all of a sudden, they are emailing all interested.No offense, but it's common sense to email someone that has pictures, it's only fair since you've seen theirs. Most people will even state in their profile, "Must have picture to email me". There's actually a dating system that won't allow someone without a pic to email someone who has pictures. It's an important tid bit of information would would usually need to know before meeting in person. Like a bug zapper... works great to eliminate men who are drawn mostly by looks. That's true for anyone, both male and female. To eliminate someone from the pool in this fashion would be unnatural.
carhill Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 When it comes to titillating men, women know exactly what they're doing
thatone Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 It might have been an experiment... See which guys email her based on her pics... then 'unselect' them from future consideration. I've done that. I never posted anything revealing or sexual... but did post pictures that showed what my figure looks like. It was interesting... men that I knew had been online for quite awhile never even LOOKED at my profile when it didn't have pics. Then all of a sudden, they are emailing all interested. Like a bug zapper... works great to eliminate men who are drawn mostly by looks. ZAAPPPP!! if you got a calculator and a pencil you could probably quantify how long it takes to eliminate every heterosexual man on the planet and then make your lonely future official and permanent, then you wouldn't have to worry about all of this anymore.
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 As to the second statement, you're contradicting yourself. They clearly don't value themselves, hence the revealing outfits to make up for everything they lack. I think I had to clarify what I meant by overvalue in the other thread. I didn't necessarily mean value in the sense of how a person views her own qualities, but how much value a prospective date must have. It is more along the lines of how much external value a person feels they are entitled to, regardless of their own internal value.
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Now this is somethin' Yowsa!! lol Geez...ridiculous...not attractive...
Yellow_Duck'y Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Now this is somethin' Yowsa!! lol That's disgusting.
Easyguy14 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 It might have been an experiment... See which guys email her based on her pics... then 'unselect' them from future consideration. I've done that. I never posted anything revealing or sexual... but did post pictures that showed what my figure looks like. It was interesting... men that I knew had been online for quite awhile never even LOOKED at my profile when it didn't have pics. Then all of a sudden, they are emailing all interested. Like a bug zapper... works great to eliminate men who are drawn mostly by looks. ZAAPPPP!! thats wrong. men are supposed to know who they're emailing. why would any guy email a girl that's invisible to them? just show your best without looking tasteless. while Im not all about looks but more on personality, I do wanna see who Im talking to.
grkBoy Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Meh...I remember when I tried POF. Total waste of time. I still agree with whoever told me that a girl is serious when she's willing to pay the monthly fee for a pay site. The rest they more or less "dance" around the idea unless some super-amazing guy emails her. Girls will post the sexy shots, even complain about the guys only looking for sex, but they want to show off their "assets" and thus hope the guys they really want come calling. It's marketing...and I can't blame them. If I was a woman with a hot body and great pair of knockers, I'd be showing them off in a classy, but sexy fashion...and just hit "delete" on all the guys wanting sex.
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 It's marketing...and I can't blame them. If I was a woman with a hot body and great pair of knockers, I'd be showing them off in a classy, but sexy fashion...and just hit "delete" on all the guys wanting sex. Now can a guy do this...?
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 No offense, but it's common sense to email someone that has pictures, it's only fair since you've seen theirs. Most people will even state in their profile, "Must have picture to email me". There's actually a dating system that won't allow someone without a pic to email someone who has pictures. It's an important tid bit of information would would usually need to know before meeting in person. That's true for anyone, both male and female. To eliminate someone from the pool in this fashion would be unnatural. Before meeting in person, perhaps. As a primary selection tool, no. I've had men agree to meet me without sending pictures at all, believe it or not. They were not disappointed. "unnatural"... maybe. But I'm not looking for men who select mates primarily on looks... so it was a perfect screening tool. and frankly, while the selection still wasn't the best... the quality of men I met AFTER pulling down pictures was MUCH higher than the ones I met when I had pictures posted.
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 It's marketing...and I can't blame them. If I was a woman with a hot body and great pair of knockers, I'd be showing them off in a classy, but sexy fashion...and just hit "delete" on all the guys wanting sex. I don't even have time to hit 'delete'... nor the mental space to sift through that garbage. Has it occurred to any of you dolts that the truly classy, truly 'hot' women don't post pictures??? I mean, would a classy guy who was hot, and mega-bucks necessarily be flashing his huge wad of cash on a dating site? I bet not. I bet he'd be flying below the radar hoping to find a woman who loved him for him... Think about it...
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 thats wrong. men are supposed to know who they're emailing. why would any guy email a girl that's invisible to them? just show your best without looking tasteless. while Im not all about looks but more on personality, I do wanna see who Im talking to. Hmmm... ever talked to someone on the phone? Get a sense of their personality that way? An honest profile should do that... give you a sense of their personality. If you need a picture first before either initiating or responding, then no... looks ARE first for you, whether you want to admit it or not. And you are doing the catalog dating like a few of us have objected to... and the reason I stopped online dating.
Star Gazer Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 It's marketing...and I can't blame them. If I was a woman with a hot body and great pair of knockers, I'd be showing them off in a classy, but sexy fashion...and just hit "delete" on all the guys wanting sex. And how exactly is a woman supposed to know that a guy wants sex, as opposed to something else, when she's showing off her assets and making it appear as though they're easy to get one's hands on?
Emilia Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I don't even have time to hit 'delete'... nor the mental space to sift through that garbage. Has it occurred to any of you dolts that the truly classy, truly 'hot' women don't post pictures??? I mean, would a classy guy who was hot, and mega-bucks necessarily be flashing his huge wad of cash on a dating site? I bet not. I bet he'd be flying below the radar hoping to find a woman who loved him for him... Think about it... The conclusion I came to was that truly classy, truly hot people don't use dating sites because they don't need to. I made more effort with real life interests, joined a surf and a sailing club and have met quality men. Some are rich, some aren't so much. None of them resort to the internet though. Every time I spoke to a guy that had no photo up he turned out to be married or just weird. Why would a man restrict his dating pool by not having photos up? The idea that some of those are princes is ridiculous
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