without Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 (edited) I've been online dating a guy,for about 2 weeks...we would skpye eachother..he seems nice but the problem is he wants us to have sex too soon...like he says let's start sexting..can i see your body blah blah..i don't like it..we have argued alot about this ,each time he pretends as if i wanted too..i don't know how they change everything against you in an argument but he does it...he says he's a shy guy and he's only like open to me..when i saw him in person ..yes he is shy... second problem once i saw him outside..he has serious smoking problems,his voice has changed and he's only 22.. I don't know if i should give him a chance or dump him and it's SO HARD for me to dump him...i don't know how to do it...or should i do it? Edited August 19, 2011 by without
D-Lish Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 So let me get this straight, you barely know him and he's pressuring you for sex and trying to manipulate you into sending him pics or talking dirty over texting... This question should be a no brainer if you respect yourself, heck it shouldn't even be a question you should feel the need to bounce off strangers. You've got all the red flags waving in front of you... What in the world would keep you attached to him?
denise_xo Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 I don't know if i should give him a chance or dump him and it's SO HARD for me to dump him...i don't know how to do it...or should i do it? Definitely dump him. This guy is totally creepy. Here's what you do: - text him and say "Hi, I don't think we're a good match. I hope you find someone else who is". (You can also just skip this step completely since he's being a total idiot). - block him from your phone and from skype.
thelovingkind Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 More red flags than a communist party rally. Especially the "only you make me feel like this" / "I can only open up to you" type lines. Block and move on!
ScienceGal Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Not good for you my dear, get out of this now! Defnitely a no-brainer!
FinOuch Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Oh hun...there is absolutely no reason to tolerate this behavior, especially given that you've only been involved for a couple weeks! Kick him to the curb! And if you need a little motivation to help muster the strength, then let's look at the logic of it. First - he's pressuring you for sex after two weeks. That's not a good sign at all. And chances are if he's comfortable being that aggressive this quickly on, then you can expect to be pressured for sex for the entire duration of the relationship. Second - he's a manipulative arguer by creating an argument and twisting it around on you. In other words, he fights dirty. That's even worse that being a hornball! This is a tactic he uses to get what he wants (and, unfortunately, he's probably used to getting results with it) and you can bet your bottom dollar that he will use this tactic on EVERY issue that comes up in your relationship. This can't lead to a healthy relationship. Flee!
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