Jayhawkfl Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 An old girl friend of mine looked me up after about three years. She's a real sweet heart, and she's going through a real rough patch in her life. (most likely why she looked me up in the first place) I was tryin to be supportive so I picked her up from work and we hung out at my house. she fell asleep in my bed with in 10 minutes. (she just broke up with her boyfirend who is the father of her two kids and he's making her sleep on the couch) She woke up long enough to eat and tell me she was sore, so I gave her a back rub and was working on her legs (She works as a server so her back and legs were worst) well after the first leg she pulled me donw on top of her and well you can figure it out from there. not really what I intended to happen, but well we did. She's a real sweet heart and I really don't mind the kids, I'm not really ready to have a family of my own (only because of my finaces and I'm just 20) My biggest concern right now is that the boyfriend might use me against her in the child custody deal. I like her but I'm not gonna let the father use me to take her kids. is that a possibility has anyone been in a similar situation?
thatone Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 yes and she will ruin both you and the husband. forget it.
Author Jayhawkfl Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 yes and she will ruin both you and the husband. forget it. I was worried about that. :/
thatone Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 here's how it plays out in all likelihood. the next time her and the husband get in a fight she tells him about you. then when the husband throws her out she comes and cries on your shoulder about how bad the husband treated her. so he's pissed at her, and you, and you're pissed at him. then at some point she will leave you and try to patch it up with him, and then you'll have him pissed at you and her, and you pissed at her and him. the only thing the three of you will have in common is how much you hate the other two people.
Author Jayhawkfl Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 I told her I'd like to be involved, ( I want to help and maybe I shouldn't IDK) but she needs to get this mess fixed first. and I think she turned her phone off.
thatone Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 you can help. tell her once her separation with the husband/boyfriend is complete, and child support is established, and she has stopped sleeping in the same house with him, she is welcome to call you and start over again. and i'll bet you a hundred bucks she disappears again after establishing those terms.
Author Jayhawkfl Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 you can help. tell her once her separation with the husband/boyfriend is complete, and child support is established, and she has stopped sleeping in the same house with him, she is welcome to call you and start over again. and i'll bet you a hundred bucks she disappears again after establishing those terms. Looks liked your gonna win this bet. I was just telling her basicly that and she's freaking out...I told her that I don't wanna walk away but I'm not gonna let the boyfriend us US as leverage. I'm trying to figure out whats the best way to work this. might not be worth it
dreamingoftigers Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Um, guys, I think she just dud it to boost her self-esteem after a breakup. Maybe even see if she's still desirable. If the OP was heavily interested enough in her, she'd probably try it out. At this point though I would say that most women aren't trying to grapevine date and don't expect the new guy to do much of anything except give up some NSA till she feels tip-top.
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