Crapdiem Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 So we had our first post A fight. Over money (surprise). He felt I had kept him in the dark, said something about how it is like stuff is happening all over again (our marriage going south had a lot ot do with our finances). Part of me wanted to scream at him that how could he say stuff about not being able to trust ME???? I am not the one who had the affair. but I didnt. I understand he is frustrated and that the affair and this incident are not connected. Our marriage and this incident are connected. I know that I am just personally having a hard time right now. I dont know when we are supposed to stop talking about the affair, at one point talking about it becomes a passive aggressive way to hurt him (and I know he hurt me but there is a line where it has to be left if we are to move on together). I still dont know if I am making the right choice. This fight has me thinking, has anything between the two of us REALLY changed????? Our communication is still that I want to talk and he wants to hide away. I work days, he works nights, so that further compounds the issue. When we move forward, do we stop looking back????
Owl Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 What actions/steps are the two of you actually DOING to reconcile the marriage after the affair? To fix communication? To work through the damage done by his cheating, and to rebuild and fix the relationship over all?
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