Flipper Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 First, moderators please don't delete this thread, I need genuine advice. Second, I am going to talk a little explicit about sex so if you are offended by sex then just don't read this thread. ... Ok, I have been hanging around lots of girls lately, getting them interested, etc. and I haven't had sex in like 2 years. From age 14-18 I had lots of sex, but then I got hit with some bad depression and didn't have any girlfriends. So now I'm getting back into the swing of things, and I will most likely have sex very soon. I have a very high sex drive, and I don't want to embarass myself by finishing too soon cause it's been a good while... It feels like it's been so long since i was sexually active I want it all to come back tome naturally like it used to. Can anyone (paticularly guys) give me some solid advice, especially if you've been there? Thanks a lot.... Again, I want to last a long time, etc.
Dust Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Practice makes perfect. I think you just have to enjoy yourself and not stress out or ask people for advice. If you can get a good hard boner and keep it that’s 90% of the battle.
Pierre Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 oh no ! The women don't like men with little sexual experienced. At least you are not a virgin, but after two years you may be almost a virgin. Make sure to pretend you have done it a zillion times. If you think you are going to reach orgasm too soon you may want to masturbate before a promising date.
Mr. Slim Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Just wear a condom! Turns me into a marathon man.
Pasttense Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 If you think you are going to reach orgasm too soon you may want to masturbate before a promising date. There's Something About Mary
Feelin Frisky Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Why worry about PE unless you've had that before? You have to be careful what you tell yourself and keep reinforcing. You could just as easily be telling yourself that you're older and wiser than you were and should therefore have no childish insecurity. Pump yourself up with positive messages and soldier on.
Author Flipper Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 Why worry about PE unless you've had that before? You have to be careful what you tell yourself and keep reinforcing. You could just as easily be telling yourself that you're older and wiser than you were and should therefore have no childish insecurity. Pump yourself up with positive messages and soldier on. Thank you everyone, and good point on the messages I tell myself. If I think about PE it will happen I know. I need to think about being the man in bed and having awesome sex and loving it, right?
Dust Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Thank you everyone, and good point on the messages I tell myself. If I think about PE it will happen I know. I need to think about being the man in bed and having awesome sex and loving it, right? Who cares if you PE. Just finger her till she orgasms, heck eat out with your cum/condom taste if she/you think that’s hot.
giuliano-3 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Thank you everyone, and good point on the messages I tell myself. If I think about PE it will happen I know. I need to think about being the man in bed and having awesome sex and loving it, right? No. You shouldn't think about anything but the task at hand. PE is something men worry about these days because of Hollywood comedies and the 200 commercials on TV every day. Its really not a concern. I mean, it happens sometimes in certain situations to younger folk - but not really enough to justify taking a pill. For example, you have sex but no climax for yourself then wake up the next morning and have sex right away. That PE will be hard to stop. You can think it to death, but it will still probably happen. What you need to do is relax. Focus on something called "foreplay." I guarantee if you do that right, then relax and let things happen naturally you'll be fine. I mean, dude, how do you think we got to be here walking on this Earth. Did cavemen worry about PE? Its right up there with eating, sleeping - our bodies were designed to do it. Just let it happen.
Author Flipper Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 I guarantee if you do that right, then relax and let things happen naturally you'll be fine. I mean, dude, how do you think we got to be here walking on this Earth. Did cavemen worry about PE? Its right up there with eating, sleeping - our bodies were designed to do it. Just let it happen. Thank you for that. That makes perfect sense. I'm just going to let it happen!
Pierre Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 When I was in your age group I never had expectations and therefore I never appied pressure to myself. I dated and never had pre-conceived plans about when and how to have sex. IF there was any sexual activity it was spontaneous and not planned. If there was no sex, no big deal because I expected nothing. I never worried about performance, I only wanted to enjoy the romantic connection in a natural manner without pre-conceived agendas. Just go with the flow.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Perhaps the reason I don't have this is because from before my first sex I had heard about PE and women being neglected because of it and I enforced on myself that that ain't happening with this muchacho. It's my damn duty--which I pleasingly accept--to see that my love is not another statistic and gets what she needs and wants out of sex. I feel this then gives me the right also to cum how I want in the way that pleases me most. And that is not inside her and with some express stimulation where I like it to get me off in the extreme. Whatever you do don't buy into that advice that "who cares, just finger her or eat her". That shows no sense of what a woman wants. Assume that at some point she wants to ride your stiffy and feel what her anatomy was made for.
Ross MwcFan Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 First, moderators please don't delete this thread, I need genuine advice. Second, I am going to talk a little explicit about sex so if you are offended by sex then just don't read this thread. ... Ok, I have been hanging around lots of girls lately, getting them interested, etc. and I haven't had sex in like 2 years. From age 14-18 I had lots of sex, but then I got hit with some bad depression and didn't have any girlfriends. So now I'm getting back into the swing of things, and I will most likely have sex very soon. I have a very high sex drive, and I don't want to embarass myself by finishing too soon cause it's been a good while... It feels like it's been so long since i was sexually active I want it all to come back tome naturally like it used to. Can anyone (paticularly guys) give me some solid advice, especially if you've been there? Thanks a lot.... Again, I want to last a long time, etc. Masturbate before having sex.
Shalyn Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 All your advice is good, but a combination of them would be the very best thing to do. Take care of yourself before you have sex. Then, take care of her during foreplay. Then the two of you together can take your time. I did read in a good book from datingmidlife.com that men and women view sex differently. Talk before sex to be sure she thinks it's just sex too. A lot of women think it's a lot more...just a thought
dasein Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Don't start thrusting immediately, instead ride higher on her and kind of grind her clit area. Many women orgasm faster this way anyway. Once you pass the first impulse to come, you should be fine.
Ross MwcFan Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 From my experience, don't do this. It can lead to other potential problems: reduced sex drive, sluggishness, ED. Ultimately it's just one more act to encourage your anxiety. I think you're going to be 100% fine without any preparation. In fact I think you will be surprised at how fine you are. Your body changes whether you're having sex or not. Well just masturbate 30 mins to a couple of hours before having sex. I guess it depends on how strong his sex drive is.
betterdeal Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Good aerobic exercise will increase your stamina. Cumming quickly can be linked to running out of steam, but if you exercise regularly you'll be used to getting second wind and the build up to that. Or take ecstasy. You'll be going for hours.
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