njruns75 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 so guy I just met said he wanted to take me out but had no money bc his dog was sick and he didn't get paid from new job yet! I paid! Second "date" I put it on my card and he said he'd give me cash but never did!!! Said he hadn't gotten paid from his new job yet still. What's up with this??? So strange!
mysteriousbox Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Holy sh$t, that's what almost every guy experiences in the dating scene, STOP - THE - PRESSES!!!
sm1tten Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Why do you keep going out with him when you know he has no money, and then complain about the fact that he has no money? That's the part that's strange.
carhill Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 I've yet to have a woman say she'd pay but then forget her pocketbook or not pay me back. See the advantages of not paying? OP, I wonder what would happen if you forgot your pocketbook and he had no money? Would you both walk on the check? LOL. Try it sometime, just for fun.
grkBoy Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 so guy I just met said he wanted to take me out but had no money bc his dog was sick and he didn't get paid from new job yet! I paid! Second "date" I put it on my card and he said he'd give me cash but never did!!! Said he hadn't gotten paid from his new job yet still. What's up with this??? So strange! Move on. He's unemployed or playing you. I seriously never understood why guys with no job or money think so much about finding a girlfriend. How about getting your life in order first? Same goes for broke/unemployed women.
AHardDaysNight Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 What is the issue here? You don't get a free meal for once. Get over it.
O'Malley Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 I seriously never understood why guys with no job or money think so much about finding a girlfriend. How about getting your life in order first? Same goes for broke/unemployed women. Agreed. As he apparently is a mooch (since he has never fulfilled his promise of paying you back or even treating you the next occasion) it's a waste of your time to even see him again. If you can't resist going on another outing with him, I do like the suggestion of pretending to forget your wallet, or mentioning that you have a ailing grandmother in a foreign country that you're sending every dime of you paycheck to, so he'll either have to pay his way from now on or piss off.
USMCHokie Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Is he hot? That often makes even unemployment seem like a moot point.
jerbear Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 He could be playing you or telling you the truth. There are places that pay once a month. When did he start his new job? If it was like the 2nd day of the month; he'll be SOL till the end of the month. Beyond that he is playing you.
John Michael Kane Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 What is the issue here? You don't get a free meal for once. Get over it. Love this post. No need to complain if the guy obviously didn't have any money on him for a "good" reason.
ChessPieceFace Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 I seriously never understood why guys with no job or money think so much about finding a girlfriend. How about getting your life in order first? This implies that the only worth I have is my wallet. If that's the case, I may as well pay to go out with a whore for the evening, use her for sex and she will use me for money, as you seem to think that's what dating is. Maybe it is, I wouldn't know. Same goes for broke/unemployed women. Like hell. Women get a free ride. Well ok, pretty and/or easy women get a free ride. And to the OP -- maybe he is just broke. We're in a bad economy. If that's a deal-breaker, so be it. I am broke and wouldn't date for the same reason. Contradictory? I don't think so. I have a very low opinion of women.
strawberryshortstack Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 (edited) Move on. He's unemployed or playing you. I seriously never understood why guys with no job or money think so much about finding a girlfriend. How about getting your life in order first? Same goes for broke/unemployed women. wow, really? the fact that I'm unemployed means I don't deserve my relationship? You can still bring something to the table if you don't have a job. For the record, I don't expect him to bring me out to dinner every time we see each other. In fact, I don't expect it at all. He just does it. He never asks me to pay because he knows I can't, and he knows that I will when I'm able to. Edited August 19, 2011 by shystrawberry
PhillyDude Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 so guy I just met said he wanted to take me out but had no money bc his dog was sick and he didn't get paid from new job yet! I paid! Second "date" I put it on my card and he said he'd give me cash but never did!!! Said he hadn't gotten paid from his new job yet still. What's up with this??? So strange! This guy must be FINE!!!!!!!!!!!!
PhillyDude Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 This implies that the only worth I have is my wallet. If that's the case, I may as well pay to go out with a whore for the evening, use her for sex and she will use me for money, as you seem to think that's what dating is. Maybe it is, I wouldn't know. Like hell. Women get a free ride. Well ok, pretty and/or easy women get a free ride. And to the OP -- maybe he is just broke. We're in a bad economy. If that's a deal-breaker, so be it. I am broke and wouldn't date for the same reason. Contradictory? I don't think so. I have a very low opinion of women. I'm on unemployment now and let me tell you after analyzing the budget for rent, food, and bills, there is not much money left for dating. So unless you are already in a relationship, why would you want to court anyone and your income is low and you have no job? I'm going on a 5th date on Monday and plan to tell her that I will only be able to go out once a month. I don't want to end things since will have been going out since May. But to try and meet someone and start a relationship and you don't have a job is crazy. Unless you have a HUSKY BANK ACCOUNT
strawberryshortstack Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I'm on unemployment now and let me tell you after analyzing the budget for rent, food, and bills, there is not much money left for dating. So unless you are already in a relationship, why would you want to court anyone and your income is low and you have no job? I'm going on a 5th date on Monday and plan to tell her that I will only be able to go out once a month. I don't want to end things since will have been going out since May. But to try and meet someone and start a relationship and you don't have a job is crazy. Unless you have a HUSKY BANK ACCOUNT I guess I have different expectations of a relationship than most. I don't see a relationship as a way to get free meals from someone. I'm happily getting to know my guy (it's still a fairly new relationship, and I was unemployed long before I met him), without him having to spend money on me, or me having to spend money on him. Maybe it's different from the guy's point of view, though. Or maybe I'm just odd, that is entirely possible.
PhillyDude Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I guess I have different expectations of a relationship than most. I don't see a relationship as a way to get free meals from someone. I'm happily getting to know my guy (it's still a fairly new relationship, and I was unemployed long before I met him), without him having to spend money on me, or me having to spend money on him. Maybe it's different from the guy's point of view, though. Or maybe I'm just odd, that is entirely possible. But how many ideas can you come up with that involves no money? I mean you can watch a movie at home but what else besides can I continue to do that doesn't involve money? Even when we went to see a free moie in downtown philly there are still stands that sell icre cream, funnel cakes, and soda. So going put normally involves money especially when you are 30 and over
Peitho Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 When a Man Says He Has No money for first dates! I honestly don’t understand what the problem is. You can date without spending a lot of money. Not everything is perfect in life and people sometimes find themselves struggling financially. So what? That doesn’t automatically make them loosers. Also, I don’t think anyone should put thier life on hold while they are unemployed. Look on the bright side – you have all this time to spend on planning romantic low-cost dates My advice would be to give him a chance and find out who he actually is?
PhillyDude Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I honestly don’t understand what the problem is. You can date without spending a lot of money. Not everything is perfect in life and people sometimes find themselves struggling financially. So what? That doesn’t automatically make them loosers. Also, I don’t think anyone should put thier life on hold while they are unemployed. Look on the bright side – you have all this time to spend on planning romantic low-cost dates My advice would be to give him a chance and find out who he actually is? You can get away with that in the summer since I was able to go on two dates and only spend $15 since it was ice cream and water ice. But what happens when it's November and it's cold and you can't go take a walk in the park or the waterfront or sit outside and eat icream? Then what?
strawberryshortstack Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 But how many ideas can you come up with that involves no money? I mean you can watch a movie at home but what else besides can I continue to do that doesn't involve money? Even when we went to see a free moie in downtown philly there are still stands that sell icre cream, funnel cakes, and soda. So going put normally involves money especially when you are 30 and over well, maybe this is the big difference. I am 37, so I'm definitely in the 30 and over group...but I've never been all that big on going out to begin with. He's the same way, for the most part, so it works for us. Mostly, we stay in and watch movies/tv or sit on the couch and read together. We also eat dinner together and just talk. Don't get me wrong, we do go out, but usually in a small group. It's still a new relationship, so things may change, but this is what works for us now. In past relationships, I've been known to enjoy things like walks on the beach/lake, camping, etc. None of which require a lot of money, if any at all. So maybe it is just that I'm not your typical woman, or ours is a non-typical relationship.
strawberryshortstack Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 You can get away with that in the summer since I was able to go on two dates and only spend $15 since it was ice cream and water ice. But what happens when it's November and it's cold and you can't go take a walk in the park or the waterfront or sit outside and eat icream? Then what? Bookstores...malls (if you enjoy shopping). Go to the library and each of you choose a book for the other to read, which you can then read together or separately and then talk about them. Does Philly have free museums?
strawberryshortstack Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 well, maybe this is the big difference. I am 37, so I'm definitely in the 30 and over group...but I've never been all that big on going out to begin with. He's the same way, for the most part, so it works for us. Mostly, we stay in and watch movies/tv or sit on the couch and read together. We also eat dinner together and just talk. Don't get me wrong, we do go out, but usually in a small group. It's still a new relationship, so things may change, but this is what works for us now. In past relationships, I've been known to enjoy things like walks on the beach/lake, camping, etc. None of which require a lot of money, if any at all. So maybe it is just that I'm not your typical woman, or ours is a non-typical relationship. I'll admit that our relationship has seemed to progress to the "comfortable stage" much faster than my previous ones, so maybe my advice isn't appropriate for you.
PhillyDude Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Bookstores...malls (if you enjoy shopping). Go to the library and each of you choose a book for the other to read, which you can then read together or separately and then talk about them. Does Philly have free museums? Yes, bookstore dates is something I do a lot in the winter. I noticed that I rarely go to a bookstore in the summer
strawberryshortstack Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Also, I don’t think anyone should put thier life on hold while they are unemployed. Look on the bright side – you have all this time to spend on planning romantic low-cost dates I totally agree with this. As for the OP, I really have no advice. I've never been in this position before. The closest I've been was on a third date. He took me to Subway, excused himself to the bathroom while I was ordering for myself, forcing me to pay for my own meal, and he did not eat. Needless to say, we didn't last. Not because I had to pay for my own meal, but because of the way he handled it.
phineas Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Is he hot? That often makes even unemployment seem like a moot point. He has to be hot. seriously, i doubt buddy hacket could pull this off.
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