MammaMia Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 After Dday, did your spouse: a) defend the OP? b) get angry at you over and over? c) did spouse keep going back to OP or keep contact with the OP? d) did spouse ever get angry at the OP? Mine did all a,b,and c. Up to this day, regardless of what she has done and said, H has never truly been angry at her. That has me baffled.
seren Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Keeps telling me too few letters, so have added this, we shall see .... After Dday, did your spouse: a) defend the OP? No, he felt she had enabled him to have the A and ultimately to play a part in my hurt. Irrational I know, but there you go. b) get angry at you over and over? No, not for a moment, with himself, yes, with me, he couldn't do enough. c) did spouse keep going back to OP or keep contact with the OP? No, it was ended with a two word text, it's over. I encouraged him to give her proper closure, but TBH he was just relieved to tell me and had ended it. d) did spouse ever get angry at the OP? Not at her as total NC, but about her, yes. The OW did some pretty nasty bunny boiler tricks towards me afterwards. Mine did all a,b,and c. Up to this day, regardless of what she has done and said, H has never truly been angry at her. That has me baffled.
Spark1111 Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 After Dday, did your spouse: a) defend the OP? b) get angry at you over and over? c) did spouse keep going back to OP or keep contact with the OP? d) did spouse ever get angry at the OP? Mine did all a,b,and c. Up to this day, regardless of what she has done and said, H has never truly been angry at her. That has me baffled. Yes Yes Yes Yes, eventually....but he had to realize that on his own. He isn't willing to examine that this was the only person on the planet that would encourage him to be a lesser man. That takes time as he still harbors the romantic fantasy the affair is for all. It is perfect, fun, light, emotional, hotly sexual, with no adult responsibilities. What consequences has your husband experienced for loving and boffing another. To tolerate her bad-mouthing of you is inexcusable and so, so disrespectful. If he does not get his azz out of his butt, I would encourage you to tell him, go get her if he thinks she is the answer to all his woes and you should move on to a man who loves and appreciates you for you. Set him free. You deserve love and respect. And someone defending there AP, sorry to say, is not that man.
John Michael Kane Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 After Dday, did your spouse: a) defend the OP? Yes. b) get angry at you over and over? Yes and I didn't put up with it. c) did spouse keep going back to OP or keep contact with the OP? No. d) did spouse ever get angry at the OP? Yes. Mine did all a,b,and c. Up to this day, regardless of what she has done and said, H has never truly been angry at her. That has me baffled.It wouldn't matter if he was.
Author MammaMia Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 The reason he got angry at me is because he did not want to talk about the A at first. He wanted me to put it all behind me, to get over it, and move on. He has not done this in over a year. I have the upper hand - so to speak- now and everytime I feel the need to address the A , I do so. He may not answer my questions, for the most part he stays silent, but I get it all out of my system and he knows I am very close to the truth.
Author MammaMia Posted August 19, 2011 Author Posted August 19, 2011 Kane: If you do not mind elaborating: why wouldn't it matter even if H had gotten angry at the bimbo? ( Look at your response and let me know,please)
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