Mixed signals mean obvious no?

[tiKiman]

Hello all,

 

I've always lived with the assumption that when women express signals mixed in any way, they are usually just putting the man aside or just entirely rejecting them--I mean, if they like you, would like to go out with you, and there is nothing stopping anyone from asking each other, then there really should not be any hesitation; but I recently found myself in a predicament where I am really confused.

 

Here's the cool story bros:

We are both really shy people; she has about a year to turn 21, and I a few months to turn 24. We met on an internship tour for a month to a different county with fellow peers/colleagues; and through this internship trip, I have grown close to her as a friend and now something more--I find myself unable to stop thinking about her. We are back in the states now and have still kept in contact, though we haven't talked the same way we did on the trip; and also, we've only talked on facebook and not through the phone as I've been too shy to ask for her number.

 

There was a point in time on this same trip that a girlfriend of mine was asked by this girl whether or not I liked her. My girlfriend told her yes I did, but unfortunately the feeling was not mutual. When I heard about this, I stopped my pursuit, or whatever little pursuit I initiated.

 

Now I find myself feeling much regret for not pursuing her or asking her out as I did have many chances; one oppurtunity for example was when I was left alone with her on a rooftop overlooking the skyline of the metropolis shimmering behind the lake in front of us--we were there as a group first, everyone left but I stayed for a cigarette; she stayed and left with me (mixed signals?).

 

So should I seize the day or should I drop it and move on?

 

Thanks

[MarlyStar]

People generally regret what they don't do more and longer than what they do do.

 

How are you going to feel about it a year from now? 20 years from now?

[robotgayle]

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