calithin83 Posted May 3, 2004 Posted May 3, 2004 well i was just wondering...seeing if anyone had a similar situation and can gimme feedback.. anyways im probably gonna move to cal state fullerton this fall2004..and im 20 years old (transferring) anyways ive never been away from home and well i havent been away from my bf..(been together for 3 years+5mnths) anyways..im getting a lil scared of leaving..I mean..I DO WANNA GO..cos i wanna be indpendent and try new experience, but sometimes i get scared that i wont see my bf as much..and maybe even things going dowhill for us..and then i feel imma feel weird all alone and having to make new friends and whatever..anyways any feedback can help! p.s. school is like 2-3 hours away from home..and from bf
average guy Posted May 3, 2004 Posted May 3, 2004 I've often observed that there are two types of people; those that leave home and don't need the security of familiar friends and family, and those who do need to stay in the proximity of "home". I think both "types" of people are perfectly right in their thinking/feeling. You will learn which type you are. If you go and are miserable, you may need to move back. Otherwise, you may go and find it is just the first step in many big adventures alone. Whichever happens is perfectly fine and admirable and you should be happy with whatever you decide Good luck Cheers, A.G.
hurtingandconfused Posted May 3, 2004 Posted May 3, 2004 Cal state full is a good school. I will be there myself by next year. (depending on my plans) You should not let your boyfriend stop you from becoming the person you will become. Accomplish your dreams even if it means that he will not be there. Meeting new people is part of life. And of course you cannot stop the cycle of life.
jlove421 Posted May 4, 2004 Posted May 4, 2004 When I graduated from High School and went away to college, I left a boyfriend home too. (2 hrs away). No, it wasn't easy. Do I regret it??? Absolutely not! Going away to college was one of the best things I could have ever done for myself. You probably won't get to see your boyfriend as much, but it might not necessarily be a bad thing. Right now I live with my boyfriend (not the same one from college) and I enjoy the time that we have apart. I recently w/in 2 months went to Puerto Rico and Florida by my self. Of course I missed him while I was away, but it was like a breather. As far as making new friends...I'm sure you'll have no problem with that. Just having a roommate will help with that. I know that's what it did for me. I wish you much luck!
CaterpillarGirl Posted May 4, 2004 Posted May 4, 2004 Calithin, Going away to school is hard, especially since you are leaving all the things you know. But the good part is having new experiences, meeting new people, learning things about the world and about yourself. If your boyfriend is supportive he'll want to hear about these changes in your life. However, sometimes SO's react negatively to these changes, because they feel you are leaving them behind. He won't be there to experience these things with you. He might feel like you prefer your new friends to him. Best to sit down with him before you go and have a little chat like "I'm moving to Fullerton to get a good education for myself. I'm hoping to also grow as a person. I want to you to know that however I grow, I need to know you support me. I don't want you to ever feel like I'm choosing something over you or that you aren't an important part of my life. I want to share my experiences with you so you can see how much I'm learning. I hope that you will be proud of me for what I'm going to accomplish at Cal State Fullerton. etc etc etc" It may be that you will learn that your boyfriend isn't right for you (I think you mentioned some trouble in the past). If he doesn't support your choice to educate yourself and grow, then definitely this will be a problem in the future, as we all change over time. Good luck and have fun! P.S. My sister goes to CalStateFullerton.
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