hibiscus21 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Last night, my boyfriend and I went to a yogurt bar. When I walked in I saw one of my friends that I hadn't seen in years. We were talking for about two minutes and then she cut off the conversation, saying it was good to see me and she would see me soon. I wasn't going to be rude and keep talking, because she was there with someone. I didn't get a chance to introduce my bf to her, but I didn't think it was a big deal since she cut off the conversation and it truly just slipped my mind. He asked me why I didn't introduce him and I said because it slipped my mind and she cut off the conversation, I told him it wasn't intentional. He seemed to get upset and said he would remember that for next time. I didn't know what to say, so I tried to brush it off, hoping it wouldn't turn into a big deal. We sat down to eat, and he wouldn't even look at me or talk to me. I asked him what was wrong and he said me not introducing him was incredibly rude. He said it was one of the most rudest things I could have ever done, it was if I had slapped him in the face. I didn't know what to say. I had told him that it was purely a mistake, and this was the first time it had ever happened. He starting saying that I was ashamed of him and that I didn't want to be seen in public with him. This is not true, it was a simple mistake. He was being incredibly rude to me, and he told me we needed to leave. When I told him I wasn't finished, he said he didn't care, that I pissed him off. I asked him why he was being so mean and he said when he is angry he is mean and there is nothing I can do about it. He said I was playing the victim because he was being a jerk. I wasn't trying to be the victim, I was just in shock at his reaction to this, and even if your feelings are hurt, it doesn't give someone permission to act like a jerk. My question is, did my boyfriend overreact to this situation, was I in the wrong? Im not sure how to handle this. Thank you.
sm1tten Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 I think he definitely overreacted. It wasn't a lengthy conversation and I think his anger was uncalled for. I could see feeling a bit awkward about it, but he went way far with it. I don't know what I would do in this situation. I wouldn't apologise, because you did nothing wrong, and I wouldn't want to let his mean behavior slide. On the other hand, it might be best to see if it just blows over.
TigerCub Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Your boyfriend is such an insecure nut job! Its not like you were chatting with this girl for 1/2 an hour! jeez, what a loser! he is over reacting. and as far as you not introducing him to someone you talked to for 2 minutes, being the rudest thing you could possibly do to him. go f**k his brother and ask him if not introducing him to your friend is still the rudest possible thing you could do to him I'm kidding, but he's totally exaggerating. You said sorry, lets move on. he's being a very insecure cry baby - oooh that's so sexy!! I say, if you're still going to stay with this loonie case, don't apologize again, because you'll just be reinforcing bad behavior.
2sunny Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 from what you describe - yes, you were rude. from his reaction = you should break up with someone who "gets mean when they are mad" that is not nice... at all.
Casablanca Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 from what you describe - yes, you were rude. I think if she would have ended the conversation then I'd think it odd (maybe rude) that she didnt introduce him...but the friend ended the conversation after 2 minutes...not enough time to pass judgement IMO on the OP
denise_xo Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Yes, total overreaction. I've been in his situation, and it would never occur to me to react in that way.
Kamille Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Your boyfriend is over-reacting so much that I went through your thread history to see if anything in your past might justify it. Nothing. He claimed you were ashamed to be seen with him in public. Are there any other occasions when he might have gotten that impression? Even then, it doesn't excuse his reaction. He could have brought it up in a mature "here's how this made me feel" way, instead of acting like you had done the equivalent of spitting in his face. From what you wrote, I get the impression he used that missed introduction to manipulate you emotionally or to take out his anger on you. My ex ex was like that. He would blow a fuse over the most random stuff. It got exhausting. I am now very glad he's my ex ex.
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