Meeting my boyfriend for the first time

[Morai]

Hiya~!

First time posting but I have been lurking for quite awhile. Reason for my post today is its finally coming down to the wire for me to meet my boyfriend for the first time and holy cow I am more scared than I have ever been in my life. I don't really verbalize somethings well so I apologize if this post seems a little jumbled.

 

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now and I will be meeting him for the first time in a little over a month. He had plans to come see me on two separate occasions that fell through first because of his job and then his family, but he has standing open ended tickets. I finally can afford to go see him and have taken a much easier course load in school to make sure I can, but now that its time to book my tickets part of me really doesn't want to.

 

We met through a game on total accident and immediately were great friends and I realized not long after that I was quickly falling in love with him. We decided a few months later that we would try an LDR and its been as good as an ldr can be. For about a year and a half we talked basically every waking moment watched movies together while on skype etc. So the distance of about four thousand miles and across an ocean has defined us as a couple.

 

Not being able to actually be with him has been the bane of my existence for as long as I have known him because I'm someone who needs to be physically close to people. I know when I meet him things might be different and that it might not feel the same and not in a good way. Have been worrying myself sick over it to the point of not sleeping like I need to be. I guess that I'm just really scared of losing him right after I finally get to see him and actually be with him.

 

My mind has been on the countless what ifs and how do I's etc. Am I wrong to be worried? I feel like I might be over reacting and I probably am because I'm the kind of person who can find something to worry about wren there isn't anything like that at all because I've managed to over analyze a situation.

 

point of post:

Is it okay for me to be this worried about meeting him? And any other over worriers out there mind telling me how meeting their s/o the first time went?

[HeavenOrHell]

It's natural to feel nervous, most of us do when we meet them IRL, it's the anticipation, excitement, wanting things to go well. Me and my partner didn't call ourselves a couple until we met, because no-one knows for sure until they've met IRL that they will fall in love with that person for real, although it does work out well or many couples if they've been totally themselves online and on the phone etc.

In a way we wanted to meet as soon as we could, when we started to feel we were more than friends, so that we could find out if we'd hit it off or not IRL, the longer we'd left it the more disappointing it would be if things didn't work out, we felt there was a lot of potential for us, we'd been talking for about 4 months when we first met IRL. We'd tried not to put too many expectations onto it, it but it was hard not to.

We were both nervous about meeting, partly as we knew we'd be quite gutted if we didn't hit it off, but we were pretty sure we'd at the very least be close friends.

We got on really well when we met and everything felt really natural and lovely, we're still together 16 months after meeting, but we've hit a block as neither of us can move, so we're not sure what the future will bring.

Have fun and enjoy your time together

 

Hiya~!

First time posting but I have been lurking for quite awhile. Reason for my post today is its finally coming down to the wire for me to meet my boyfriend for the first time and holy cow I am more scared than I have ever been in my life. I don't really verbalize somethings well so I apologize if this post seems a little jumbled.

 

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over two years now and I will be meeting him for the first time in a little over a month. He had plans to come see me on two separate occasions that fell through first because of his job and then his family, but he has standing open ended tickets. I finally can afford to go see him and have taken a much easier course load in school to make sure I can, but now that its time to book my tickets part of me really doesn't want to.

 

We met through a game on total accident and immediately were great friends and I realized not long after that I was quickly falling in love with him. We decided a few months later that we would try an LDR and its been as good as an ldr can be. For about a year and a half we talked basically every waking moment watched movies together while on skype etc. So the distance of about four thousand miles and across an ocean has defined us as a couple.

 

Not being able to actually be with him has been the bane of my existence for as long as I have known him because I'm someone who needs to be physically close to people. I know when I meet him things might be different and that it might not feel the same and not in a good way. Have been worrying myself sick over it to the point of not sleeping like I need to be. I guess that I'm just really scared of losing him right after I finally get to see him and actually be with him.

 

My mind has been on the countless what ifs and how do I's etc. Am I wrong to be worried? I feel like I might be over reacting and I probably am because I'm the kind of person who can find something to worry about wren there isn't anything like that at all because I've managed to over analyze a situation.

 

point of post:

Is it okay for me to be this worried about meeting him? And any other over worriers out there mind telling me how meeting their s/o the first time went?