Gypsie Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) Okay. When I was living with my ex boyfriend last year. I was financially supporting him while he was going through a Traineeship. Thinking it would ultimately help our future together in the long run. He ends up quitting. Getting a new job with full time wage instead to make things easier on us. Although. Even with him getting full wage. I was still paying all our joint bills together! Apparently he still could not afford to split bills totally down the middle even with more money. Two months later. He walks out. After only a few hypocritical arguments. Not willing to talk things out or nothing. He just gives up and leaves. We broke up in December 2010. Find out through Facebook around March 2011 he is in a relationship. A month later get this really weird text saying he wants me back. He loves me. Do not respond. Cave a few weeks later and then he denies it. After arguing about it some more I get the response "so what if I did?" Nothing was done much after that. Found out through Facebook that he and this girl get married last month. Before things get said here. It does not worry me about those two being together now. Although it did hurt seeing how he got married so quickly after our break up. The thing that baffles me most is how he seemed to be struggling with money when he and I were living together. Now all of a sudden. He can afford a ring, wedding and a honeymoon. It just does not make sense. I feel pretty duped financially supporting him last year, if in the end he was able to afford this stuff. What bull****! Would you guys feel the same way? Edited August 18, 2011 by Gypsie
musemaj11 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Countless men all over the world can relate to you. Being taken advantage of financially sucks.
Andy_K Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 How do you know he's the one that paid for all that?
musemaj11 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 My guess is that he probably found himself a wealthy woman who pays for all the wedding expenses and will support him for the rest of his life. You should feel lucky that you are not this woman.
Yookie Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Count your blessings. Do you really want to marry a guy like that? Its like he didnt even consider your feelings when he left abruptly. Dont think he suddenly became financially stable either. The wife will be paying for everything
Pierre Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Okay. When I was living with my ex boyfriend last year. I was financially supporting him while he was going through a Traineeship. Thinking it would ultimately help our future together in the long run. He ends up quitting. Getting a new job with full time wage instead to make things easier on us. Although. Even with him getting full wage. I was still paying all our joint bills together! Apparently he still could not afford to split bills totally down the middle even with more money. Two months later. He walks out. After only a few hypocritical arguments. Not willing to talk things out or nothing. He just gives up and leaves. We broke up in December 2010. Find out through Facebook around March 2011 he is in a relationship. A month later get this really weird text saying he wants me back. He loves me. Do not respond. Cave a few weeks later and then he denies it. After arguing about it some more I get the response "so what if I did?" Nothing was done much after that. Found out through Facebook that he and this girl get married last month. Before things get said here. It does not worry me about those two being together now. Although it did hurt seeing how he got married so quickly after our break up. The thing that baffles me most is how he seemed to be struggling with money when he and I were living together. Now all of a sudden. He can afford a ring, wedding and a honeymoon. It just does not make sense. I feel pretty duped financially supporting him last year, if in the end he was able to afford this stuff. What bull****! Would you guys feel the same way? Basically the "Too much too soon" syndrome. Moving together to play house with no commitment and not really knowing each other. This is often a self inflicted injury. If you had stayed independent you would not be duped. This also illustrates that moving in together is not a sign of commitment. This is a very erroneous concept among many women.
FitChick Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 This is often a self inflicted injury. If you had stayed independent you would not be duped. This also illustrates that moving in together is not a sign of commitment. It always amazes me at how many people get suckered into doing this and then wonder why it doesn't work out. Get a ring and a date first!
musemaj11 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) It always amazes me at how many people get suckered into doing this and then wonder why it doesn't work out. Get a ring and a date first! Thats right. Just jump into marriage and if it doesnt work out you can always get a divorce shortly after. Same difference! What a dumb logic. Many women seem to be under the illusion that marriage guarantees long commitment. Stupid. If two persons are compatible, their relationship will last with or without marriage. Edited August 18, 2011 by musemaj11
Pierre Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Thats right. Just jump into marriage and if it doesnt work out you can always get a divorce shortly after. Same difference! What a dumb logic. Many women seem to be under the illusion that marriage guarantees long commitment. Stupid. If two persons are compatible, their relationship will last with or without marriage. Quite true. However, it is best to wait a couple of years before living together. Marriage simply offers a greater degree of commitment, but does not protect against stupidity.
musemaj11 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) Quite true. However, it is best to wait a couple of years before living together. Marriage simply offers a greater degree of commitment, but does not protect against stupidity. The thing is many people today decide to shack up together not due to any romantic purposes. Its more financial. Sharing a place is a lot cheaper than living on your own. Personally I would never let anyone come live with me if that person doesnt plan to share the cost of living. I dont see the point. Im not running a shelter. Edited August 18, 2011 by musemaj11
Lovelybird Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 If a woman pays things for a man, this man will feel not like a man, and man won't want to marry a woman who don't make him feel like a man. Some men maybe content with women taking main responsibility for living, but I never see good results from it. Unless this man is trying hard to make a living, and have a backbone.
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