marlena Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) I highly suspect my live-in boyfriend of ten months is a high-functioning adult with Asperger's. In fact, after all the research I have done, I am almost quite positive. I knew him many, many years ago. He was a friend. Back then, everyone just thought he was eccentric, quirky and we all loved him for it. Today, it is a different story as I am living with him. I love him to smithereens but it can get tough on the relationship. Anyone ever been in this situation? If yes, I would appreciate any advice you may be able to give or knowledge you can part. Thanks! Edited August 18, 2011 by marlena
Els Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Different people act differently, even people with Aspergers'. What exactly is he doing that bothers you?
Author marlena Posted August 18, 2011 Author Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) Different people act differently, even people with Aspergers'. What exactly is he doing that bothers you? Good question, Elswyth, and one that requires extensive thought. Off hand, I'd say that what irks me most are his obsessions and awkward social skills or lack thereof. He can get downright offensive, even inflammatory, in company and he's not even aware of it. This often puts me in a very difficult spot. His obsessions are also very tiresome. He lacks flexibility and adaptability. Of course, he has so many other good qualities. That's why I stay. I'm glad I caught on because in the beginning it was really rough sailing. Now, I can deal with it better but it still gets hard sometimes. He is also a binge drinker. I think this is his way of coping ... or not. Whatever. This is a vent and a plea for any advice that LS members may impart especially those who may have Aspeger's or been in any way involved with loved ones with A. Thanks for responding. Edited August 18, 2011 by marlena
Author marlena Posted August 18, 2011 Author Posted August 18, 2011 (edited) Oh, just to add, I have a full blown autistic nephew and a couple of students as well on the spectrum so I am pretty much in the know. Still I wonder if I could be wrong. I have spoken to him about it but he just nonchalantly dismisses whatever I have to say and then leaves the room. So much for his communication skills as well. Edited August 18, 2011 by marlena
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