ConfusedT Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 yes i broke NC, disappointed. i did one whole week and then BROKE. UGH so i found out earlier that my ex was using my car to hang out with other girls and his x, who he left me for. i am SO UPSET & ANGRY. **i have proof too, she has a picture in my car and i dont even know the girl!!! =( i am on fire sitting over here! i texted! it did no good, i got nothing out of it. it was pointless and now i feel like crap! he responded but to something related but not the same and then ignored me again. im not even sad, im pissed. i asked him- ""what didnt you do to me behind my back is the best question!!!"" & he ignored that. final text was - i dont understand what the hell is wrong with you and i dont want anything to do with you! i have so much to say, but i stopped. he is NOT worthy of any more texts after this!!! pissed at myself for breakin NC bc of an instant emotional response and pissed at him for being a lying POS. =X
danceallday Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Whoa! That is a messed up situation. He does not respect you at all at this point. You do not want to go down this road - read my thread "So you think your breakup was messed up?" if you want to know the path you are heading down. First and foremost stop the texting. You need to call him and politely ask him to give you your keys back to your car. Don't be bitchy, just say you need it for an errand or to pick up somebody. Be very business like and neutral when you meet him for your keys or ask him to bring them by and drop them off at work or whatever. Tell him you need the keys by tomorrow or next day. Establish no contact - nc immediately after you get the keys back. Immediately take everything he ever gave you, pictures, etc. and put them in a box or bag and put them in the back of your closet. Delete his # from your phone, delete his email, im, un-friend him on facebook, and do not cyberstalk (I did it and I am not proud, and it sucked for me because it made me feel worse). Call all of your best friends and tell them what happened and that you need them to be very supportive right now. You need them to be non-judgemental. The whole "I never liked him" stuff is not helpful. Also the people that act like they know everything don't. Nobody does. You may need to take a sick day at work so that you can take care of yourself. Have a wing man/girl that you can call at any hour and cry on the phone with. I LOVE gay men. They are the best wing men a girl can ever have. I personally have what I call a gay mafia - they have my back all the time. Write down everything you hate about your ex and put it on a wall where you can look at it everyday. Write down another list of: Annoying stuff I do not have to put up with anymore. Treat yourself to something like a spa, bath, retail therapy. Buy those shoes you just think that you shouldn't get. Once again, gay mafia - have them take you shopping or for a makeover. Do not, DO NOT get him any gifts, tokens, cards. He is being a douche right now and should not be rewarded. Did I mention nc? If he contacts you, you can say that you think it is best right now if you two take some time to breathe and think things through. Be neutral and business like. Not emotional. If he texts you ask him politely to respect your space at this time. Say you care about him and his well-being, but that is it. No he can't have the keys to the car, no he can't come over, sure he can have his stuff back - you will ship it to him or leave it somewhere for him. Somewhere you don't see him. You deserve his respect. You did not do anything wrong. Do not blame yourself. Do not look for an answer why. Do all the things you need to do to get your self esteem back.
danceallday Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Oh yeah, listen to this while you dance around your room singing into a hairbrush. Go to a club (again - gay mafia) not to meet anyone, just dance - gay clubs are great. Good music, drinks, and you won't get hit on! Good luck!
aussie_bloke Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 yes i broke NC, disappointed. i did one whole week and then BROKE. UGH pissed at myself for breakin NC bc of an instant emotional response and pissed at him for being a lying POS. =X Confused, that sucks BUT you are not the only one that has done this and you won't be the last. Almost everyone breaks NC, and now you know how you feel after breaking it so next time you want to contact him you will be able to remember how it felt afterwards. You'll be right:)
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