Hepburn76 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Hello - Could do with some advice....!!! Okay - so about 8 weeks ago I met this guy from a dating site. The first date was wonderful - we clicked, had a really lovely evening, chatted for hours and hours. I thought the date had gone really well, but no good night kiss and it seemed like he couldn't wait to get into his car, so to be honest, I wasn't really expecting to hear from him again. Second date - he tells me he is new to this dating thing as had a really bad break up with his ex-girlfriend, so wants to take it slow, which is fine with me as I am not one to just jump into bed, I really need to feel a connection with somebody and for it to feel right. Since the first couple of dates, we've been getting together about 1/2 a week and going out. Last week I picked up the keys to my new place and I asked him to a party to meet some of my friends and as he lives about an hour away, I said he could crash at my new place. Anyway, when it came to the night - I just didn't feel like I could sleep with him, it felt all wrong and I pulled away. Now I am not sure how I feel about this guy - was aksing him to stay over too soon, even though my friends have all said I should have slept with him by now - I don't think you can put a time on that, but I am now wondering whether this guy is right for me. We get on well, he is really lovely, but there is just something I can't quite put my finger on - I don't know whether it's me talking myself out, me being scared of getting into a relationship (had a really bad break up with my ex of 10 years) or whether I am ready for a relationship - it's been 18 months since I broke up with my ex. This guy is very quiet too and sometimes I feel that there are these really awkward silences and he doesn't give much away - a bit of a close book. I am also wondering whether he is hanging around as I am somebody for hi to hook up with and do things with - he said all of his mates are settling down and nesting. what is bothering me is: a) The awkward silences b) Me not finding him sexually atrtactive - but this comes when you know somebody and it's right?? c) Me feeling there should be fireworks and there isn't. Yours confused!!!!! thanks for reading
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