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Lack of Sex Drive?

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So I been dating this guy for 6 months now and we live together, go to work come home, hang out, etc. We are both in mid 20s. Since the first time we had sex we had it steady..3-4 times a week for first 3 weeks. Then it has slowed right down to barely anything (1-2 times a month). Him being my first and being first real relationship for me and me being very unexperienced its exciting to learn and such. I also have a high sex drive which he does know about. He has lots of experience.

I would rub against him and kiss him and get no reaction. I dont know how to initiate any other way. When we lie down I can see him play with himself but nothing ever happens if I try to inidiate. When I finally win (last time was 3 weeks ago) he only gets it up for about 10 min and thats it. Instead just about everyday he asks for a bj which being a faithful gf I do it. Honestly its almost disrespectful IMO, he gets pleased but I dont. I have had only once did he ever go down on me and that was within the first 3 weeks. He doesnt look at porn much and rarely masterbates. When I sat him down and asked him what he thinks about sex in a relationship he says its a plus but not a must and if it happens it happens. Ive asked if he was gay and clearly said no, doesnt act like it either. I know he loves me alot and no way hes cheating, I want to marry the guy but this no sex thing so early on its worrying me.

It almost went to a breaking point a week ago where my mood changed to the point I started driving him away, arguing constantly about stupid things. He in turn would stop touching me at all then I got more moody, etc. Its like a continuous circle.

He is an awesome guy, does anything to make me happy, works his butt off, says I love u 20 times a day, the prefect guy. I want to work out this situation but am uncertain what to do. Do I just ignore the facts and leave it alone hoping it will work itself out or do something about it. Inexperience is definately playing a part in it.

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