bananas3 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 (edited) So I recently joined a dating site and I wasn't taking it too seriously. I started talking to this guy who seemed a lot like me, he had a joke profile, he had the same sense of humor, liked similar things, etc. We talked a lot for a couple weeks online and then he gave me his phone number and we started texting back and forth. A lot. We spent a few days texting non-stop and exchanged more pictures (no nudity or anything like that). We arranged to meet for a drink and it went well. We were both a little shy and awkward but afterwards we continued texting and we both said we wanted to hang out again. The problem we had was that we don't live close to each other, but he lives in the city I work in so we had to try to arrange to hang out after I finished work, which wasn't always possible as he worked completely different hours then me. So, we keep texting and eventually we made plans to hang out again, with me taking a train to the city to meet up with him for the day. So, he says he has a couple errands to run and then he will let me know when he is finished. He doesn't message me for the rest of the day. I sent him a message eventually asking if we were still hanging out, and he responded in the evening saying he got called into work. He seems genuinly bummed that we missed our chance to hang out again. He asks if we can meet for lunch next week, which I agreed to. This is the last I heard from him. I texted him few days ago asking if we were still meeting up this week, no response. Then I stupidly texted him again yesterday saying that it's cool if he doesn't want to talk to me anymore, but I'm a little confused as to why he would bother making plans with me. No response to that one either. I also can see that he is still online on the dating website so it's not like he had some kind of crazy emergency. Oh and I want to add that after we met I became a little unsure about the whole thing and almost stopped messaging him. But he was the one who kept it going and was really eager to hang out again. I guess by doing this he won my trust, and the more we talked the more I felt like I was starting to actually like him. That's why this sucks so much. So, I know this is long and the answers are probably obvious to anyone reading this, but considering the amount of time we spent talking and the fact that he seemed to really like me and seemed really excited about hanging out, I'm confused as to why he would just stop talking to me. Any thoughts? Edited August 17, 2011 by bananas3
stillafool Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Probably because you are geographically undesireable. He really didn't make a plan for lunch as in the day, place and time but said; let's have lunch next week which seems pretty much up in the air to me. I wouldn't contact him anymore and move on.
Author bananas3 Posted August 17, 2011 Author Posted August 17, 2011 Yeah, I thought about the location and our work hours being an issue as well. But the reason we didn't set a date was because he wanted to get his work schedule first. The place and time were going to be the same as the first time we met (by my work, on my lunch hour). So what he said was, I will let you know as soon as I get my schedule. Last message I received haha.
Eddie Edirol Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 He probably found another women who is closer to him. He just stopped answering you because thats what women do to him when they arent interested, hoping the guy would just get the hint as opposed to telling him they arent interested anymore.
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