quietGuy13 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I can't have normal sex. I've said it before. i have some problems. So yea. no sex for me. I mean no intercourse and no nothing. But i know many women always expect guys to be normal always. So if i dated a healthy girl who just like healthy men, liked sex, would it not work? I've heard a lot of stories about how some women are stuck in relationships that they really don't like cause the guy doesn't give them enough sex or good sex or whatever and they don't really like it so they move on and break up. Sure, i know there's women who would not care and they would be supportive and understanding but I'm thinking that's only 10 percent of the population. And 90 percent wouldn't like to be stuck in a relationship with no sex. It's just like men, 99 percent of Men would want a Girl who can have sex. ***** And Also, i'm pretty good at telling what girls would like to have a normal sex, so should I avoid those? From what i've seen in depictions of nightClub life where a lot of griding and sexual moves and even Sex takes place....those girls that like sex seem to be the sexy hot girls wearing hot sexy clothes or miniskirts etc. Which is usually the ones that when i see in bus stops etc, i'm attracted to. So i'm pretty sure if i see a sexy hot girl somewhere in town, at a store or whatever there's a big chance she;s the kind that likes normal Sex. Should i avoid those girls due to the Fact that if they had relationship with me, they would be stuck suffering because of no sex? The friend i have is nice, average and she always wears long dresses and she doesn't seem to have a sexy style at all. In fact she covers her chest all the way to the top. She's really nice, if she became my gf(which will not happen cause i know she doesn't like me) she would be great even though she doesn't have a sexy body or nothing. Anyways, what do you think? I mean, they say Women don't care so much about sex as much as men do..BUT there's been research that shows that Women are just as sexual even sometimes more than men. So i don't know... I really don't want to get in relationships where we start fighting about the fact I'm useless and i can't do sex. Or a relatinoship where the girl wants to break up just cause i can't have sex.
TBH Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 just because most women dont dress like slags, that doesnt mean they dont like sex. when women dress provocatively in a nightclub it just means that they are seeking sexual attention, but this in itself still doesnt mean she will easily 'put out', some people just like the kick of being looked at. others will be happy to go further. But that doesnt mean that women who dress more conservatively are not looking for sex within a relationship. not wishing to pry but I cant really comment properly because I dont understand what you issue is. when you refer to 'normal' sex I'm not really sure what it is you mean. 1
sally4sara Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Yes it would be a deal breaker for me. Find a woman who, like you, cannot have normal sex and either doesn't like talking or talks enough for you both. 1
sm1tten Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 You really can't predict what women are going to want to have sex or not. You don't need to avoid girls. You either need to fix your problems in ways that are not posting a million threads to LS, or you need to find women who can look past the things that you think are problems. Either way I seriously think you need to step away from the computer.
serial muse Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I agree with the others - there are many women who dress conservatively but also really like sex. That is not a good way to look for someone who would be satisfied in a sexless relationship. There are online dating sites dedicated to people who are looking for sexless relationships - that might be a good way for you to go. Here's the thing - are you saying that a completely sexless relationship is what you're looking for? It's not clear to me, from your post. I don't know what you mean by "normal" sex. By "normal" sex, do you simply mean missionary-position intercourse? Because in the rest of your post it seems that you're saying you can't have any sex, of any kind. I think that you'll need to clarify what you can and can't do to any potential dates. 1
LexiB Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Wait, why "can't" you have sex? Is it a medical condition or do you just not want to? 1
allina Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Wait, why "can't" you have sex? Is it a medical condition or do you just not want to? This is what I'm wondering. What do you mean can't? And, are you sure? Like I ALWAYS tell you, no matter which issues are holding you back there is help out there. Go talk to someone who can help you live a more normal life. 1
bson1257 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 This is what I'm wondering. What do you mean can't? And, are you sure? Like I ALWAYS tell you, no matter which issues are holding you back there is help out there. Go talk to someone who can help you live a more normal life. I dont know what problems he is having, but I know I cant have normal sex because of the very small size of a certain appendage.
molimo140 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 My girlfriend doesn't dress like girls in night clubs, and even when she goes to clubs she doesn't dress like them... and she likes sex just as much as I do (if not moreso sometimes ) What I'm more interested in is why you can't have 'normal sex'.. that would make it easier for us to help you solve your problems. 1
CarrieT Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I dont know what problems he is having, but I know I cant have normal sex because of the very small size of a certain appendage. There are a handful of sites for men such as you -- and men who successfully hook-up with women who have a fetish for such things. I know of several guys like you on bondage.com, collarme.com, fetlife, and alt.com. You CAN have normal sex - it just takes a special woman and they are out there.
Casablanca Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Wait, why "can't" you have sex? Is it a medical condition or do you just not want to? Yeah I want to know the reason so we can better give advice
ivalm Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Wait, why "can't" you have sex? Is it a medical condition or do you just not want to? Read some of his previous threads... he has some weird genetic mutation which makes his skin/muscles/etc weak and he managed to somehow seriously injure himself which makes stimulation of erections very painful... but more importantly, his inability to speak or process basic concepts is likely a more serious deficiency when it comes to getting girls...
nyc_guy2003 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 his inability to speak or process basic concepts is likely a more serious deficiency when it comes to getting girls... This. Even Stephen Hawking is married. Just saying.
Hepburn76 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Just because a girl dresses conservatively, doesn't mean she's not interested in sex!!! I think that's stereotyping women in all honesty. I guess it really depends on the individual in all honesty. My ex-boyfriend had an inability to have "normal sex." However, he didn't tell me this and led a double-life. To start with our relationshup was normal and healthy, but over time he lost interest and lied, saying he felt overweight, was unwell, when all the time he was on dodgy sites advertising for kinky sex and sex with men as well. For the last 7 years of our 10 year relationship. he wouldn't get physical with me. Naively I believed all he said to me about it being him, but when I learned the truth, I felt angry and bitter and annoyed with myself as well - to be honest, what I found out is affecting relationships I've had since. So, my advice would be, that you would need to be up front with the girl from the word go. If it's just kinky sex you are interested in, then join one of those dodgy sites where likeminded people are, but if it's physical than I think it would depend on the individual. A friend of mine has been married for 12 years, never consumated her marriage and has only had sex with her husband once in all the time they've been together, but they are happy together and don't need sex to cement and keep their relationship together.
LexiB Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Read some of his previous threads... he has some weird genetic mutation which makes his skin/muscles/etc weak and he managed to somehow seriously injure himself which makes stimulation of erections very painful... but more importantly, his inability to speak or process basic concepts is likely a more serious deficiency when it comes to getting girls... Oh gee. Well if this is an accurate description of OP's condition, then really any sort of sexual activity would be off the table, not just "normal" sex/intercourse. Kissing would even be problematic.
Scottdmw Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Here's something to look into: http://healthland.time.com/2011/08/18/dating-site-for-people-who-cant-have-sex-takes-off/ 1
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