oneart Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Recently I was on my partner of 3 years FB (we have each others passwrds) when a girl from work started messaging him telling him its easier for them to chat on FB because her boss sometimes checks her emails. This was all confusing to me so i played along and pretended to be him to get more information Boy was I in for a shock!!!! she started talking about how risky it was talking and said they will need to start using code names for each other on FB chat to indicate that it wasn't the other ones partner on there! i knew straight away this was dodgy! when she started talking about personal things i knew they had obviously been chatting alot without my knowledge. (By the way i work with them both too and i didn't even know they spoke!) She also indicated they met up at work because she said 'so lets continue our conversation we were having on break' i straight away became defensive and confronted my partner not letting him know exactly what i had spoken to her about. he admitted they spoke and he emailed her once or twice saying he thought she was cute etc. ... now this is where it gets interesting. at work the next day i made him show me all his work emails. They had been emailing atleast 20+ times and the emails were very suggestive. he was calling her cute and she was saying was alright himself. she would flirt unbelievably (even though she herself has a fiance) and one email read "I want to tell u naughty things whilst your girlfriends sitting next to you" he replied "your naughty.." and then "im so attracted to u" . other emails from him to her included "i wish i could see u somehow" (out of work i suspect) and "i cant wait to see u when u get back" (she was away) i am so hurt and confused he has begged and cried for me back saying he didnt do anything physical (which is true because i confronted her and she admitted nothing physical happened and i have been with him every day whilst it was going on) as the usual male response he said he would never do it again and that he loves me so much and he did it because at the time we were going through hard times (true but still no excuse) im so confused he says he would never do it again and he got caught it the moment . please any advice would help i am so confused at the moment because i love him:bunny:
Professor X Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Well, if your love to him is worth remembering things such as: "your naughty.." and then "im so attracted to u" , "i wish i could see u somehow". Than stay with him. On top of that you need to realize that you will never see him the same way you did before. Especially near that woman. Otherwise find a new man, one that doesn't seek a woman when you're going through hard times. Each chooses his own happiness.
Try Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 admitted they spoke and he emailed her once or twice saying he thought she was cute etc. ... now this is where it gets interesting. at work the next day i made him show me all his work emails. They had been emailing atleast 20+ times and the emails were very suggestive. Even when caught, he did not come clean and instead lied. one email read "I want to tell u naughty things whilst your girlfriends sitting next to you" he replied "your naughty.." She wanted to demean you and he was OK with that.
Author oneart Posted August 17, 2011 Author Posted August 17, 2011 I know he is an a-hole definately! its such a shame when people are in good relationships (for the most part) and they mess it up over someone they barely know! problem is i tend to get a little dependant in relationships so i'm scared i will call him or try and talk to him once he moves out oh well time i move on anyway even if its painful
keepsmilin74 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Even when caught, he did not come clean and instead lied. She wanted to demean you and he was OK with that. ugh, yes, exactly. sorry for your situation, OP you might want to read up threads on NC (no contact) here to help with moving on.
bluepoppy Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Thank totally sucks, and what an arse- and what is her problem ? She has a finance, so why is she bothering with other men ? Personally I might try and get some kind of revenge (since you have his passwords), but karma has a way of catching up. Might make you feel better though.
Maggotface Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 If you still have his password you might want to send those messages to her fiance.
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