lonelyheartbeat Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Okay, I posted my situation in a previous thread entitled History Repeats Itself. However, I'll give a recap. I met a guy while on vacation. The day before I flew out, he asked me to a lunch date. I decided to do it, and it turned out great. Since coming back, he's texted and e-mailed once. That was the first week. The second week I initiated texts and encouraged him to call me so we could chat. Our last phone call was August 7.. I thought it went well as we talked for several hours. Well, a couple of days later, I texted him to say hi. He responded with ahello, but said he was busy as his work had heated up and he'd be working full-time for the next two weeks. I was very uncertain about everything at this point. Especially since the last few texts and the phone call were initiated by me. This guy never really indicated that he was looking to do an LDR. But his positive comments about one day coming to see me, and if I ever came back to his state, let him know, etc. So here’s where things stand now. We added each other to Facebook that last Sunday. Although it’s kind of silly since he barely gets on it. However… I just happened to notice Tuesday afternoon that he’d commented on a friend’s post and picture. The time he did this was right in the middle of the day. When he should’ve been working. Let me just add that while I admit I don't know him well, I do know he takes his job seriously enough not to FB and all that while he's working. At least, I've never once gotten a text, e-mail, etc, from him while he was working. Anyway, I’ll tell you right now that I’m assuming he’s no longer interested. And used the typical, “sorry, I’m busy working” bit to find a way to distance himself. It really wouldn’t be the first time a guy has used that line on me to explain the lack of contact. But I’d like opinions. What do you all make of this? And yes, I know there’s no way to know for sure unless I ask. What I’d like to know is if you were in my shoes and this happened, what would you think or do from this point on?
TBH Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 But his positive comments about one day coming to see me, and if I ever came back to his state, let him know, etc. this is just the kind of thing people say to be polite and they know the chances of you 'being in the area' randomly are very slim. Its kind of like when you ask people at work 'how are you?' out of politeness. most of the time you're not actually that interested. Let me just add that while I admit I don't know him well, I do know he takes his job seriously enough not to FB and all that while he's working. At least, I've never once gotten a text, e-mail, etc, from him while he was working. Thats because he just didnt want to message you. of course he probably is a busy person but just because he is not messaging you does not mean he doesnt message other people. But I’d like opinions. What do you all make of this? And yes, I know there’s no way to know for sure unless I ask. What I’d like to know is if you were in my shoes and this happened, what would you think or do from this point on? i'd think he's not interested and move on. I dont think there are many other ways to interpret it IMO
Professor X Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 It's LDR which doesn't work for everyone.. So yes, he isn't interested and that is probably why. So cheer up, nothing to do with you
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