desire Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Hi Guys, This is such a dilemma and i appreciate some honest advice. We have had a 5+ relationship. I broke up with him two years ago and decided to travel to another country to study. He came looking for me but i told him, i was now focused on books. He went back to our country and apparently started getting on the loose and sleeping a round or dating. whichever. I have since returned from abroad seven months ago. We resumed the relationship. We have been living together for the past two and half months and i have found out while we had broken up, he made this young girl pregnant. and she gave birth about 4 months ago. I have recently found out all the details and i am broken to imagine he kept all this away from me. I cant change the fact that there is a child. Do i move out and start afresh? He seems a bit afraid to talk about it because when i asked him, he first denied that is his child, then he said we will talk about it. Dilemma!!1
Woman In Blue Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Why is this guy lying about his own flesh and blood, and denying the child's existence? What kind of a creep does that? Let me guess - he's not interested in spending time with the child and probably isn't supporting it financially either, would that be correct? If you've been living with him for 2 1/2 months and had no clue this baby even existed, it's safe to assume he doesn't done SQUAT about spending quality time with his own infant. Another deadbeat dad - how charming. I'd dump his ass in a heartbeat since he's already shown you how much character he lacks.
PinkInTheLimo Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 Hi Guys, This is such a dilemma and i appreciate some honest advice. We have had a 5+ relationship. I broke up with him two years ago and decided to travel to another country to study. He came looking for me but i told him, i was now focused on books. He went back to our country and apparently started getting on the loose and sleeping a round or dating. whichever. I have since returned from abroad seven months ago. We resumed the relationship. We have been living together for the past two and half months and i have found out while we had broken up, he made this young girl pregnant. and she gave birth about 4 months ago. I have recently found out all the details and i am broken to imagine he kept all this away from me. I cant change the fact that there is a child. Do i move out and start afresh? He seems a bit afraid to talk about it because when i asked him, he first denied that is his child, then he said we will talk about it. Dilemma!!1 Leave him and move on. A guy who does these kind of things has no morals at all. He just sticks his d!ck in whatever hole he sees without caring what kind of diseases this can give him or whether this will result in a pregancy. He also lies. He is beyond repair.
StoneCold Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 K what are you mad at here? 1) He got someone else pregnant after you broke up with him? or 2) He's now with you instead of the mother? or 4) He didnt tell you he got someone pregnant while you were broken up? or 5) He didnt tell you he got someone else pregnant prior as you two got back into a relationship ??
BeyondtheClouds Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Drop him. It's not often that I say that but do you really want to play second fiddle to another relationship. We, as society, want to see him be a good father both with scarce resources such as time and money. That means, there's not much left to you. Plus, I am not sure how successful on and off again relationships are in the long term. Learn your lessons here and move on.
Author desire Posted August 23, 2011 Author Posted August 23, 2011 K what are you mad at here? 1) He got someone else pregnant after you broke up with him? or 2) He's now with you instead of the mother? or 4) He didnt tell you he got someone pregnant while you were broken up? or 5) He didnt tell you he got someone else pregnant prior as you two got back into a relationship ?? Thanks totally mad that he can hide such a fact from me and deny about it. I am stuck for a decision as his family and some people in my family think he has always loved me and said so....alhough as a matter of fact i frustrated him alot and ran away and livd there for years, he followed me but things dint work out. I was never ready for marriage and kids etc... that made him frustrated.... i wnat to leave him.... although i also love him...i am also worried that at this age i have to start afresh...
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