Viking Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 My gf is moving to Taiwan for about 10-11 months to study at a university there. I will be moving there about 5 months after her, to teach English and also so as to maintain our relationship. I feel like 10-11 months apart would be really difficult and potentially relationship ending, as that is a long time. What I am wondering is, how do you manage a relationship that is purely online for a period of time? I love her, but it will be hard to not be able to hold her. This is a trip that she has wanted to do since before we were dating, so I don't want to prevent her from following her dream, but at the same time I want to be there with her. She leaves in 9 days, so it is really getting down to the wire here. What do you do when your love is away? I feel like it will feel as if I could just head over to her place, but it won't be her place anymore. I feel slightly empty, as if I've lost something without actually having lost anything. I will be able to focus on my student teaching, but it will be difficult at the same time. Anybody have advice? I guess I should join the club. I won't be seeing her except for skype til late January/early February. What kind of advice do you have for someone who is just joining the LDR crowd? Thanks.
HeavenOrHell Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I would love to be in your shoes, to only be apart from him for 5 months or even a yeah before we're together permanently, that would be a dream for me, my LDR is open ended as job transfer fell through, so it may take years, or never, to be able to move, so we're trying to decide whether we can bear it or not or call it a day, we would have lived closer next year. You just need to have as much contact as possible, texts, skype, phone, emails, send cards, little gifts to each other. It's not too hard to keep things going and keep your bond, if you have plenty of contact. Keep the end in sight, January will be here before you know it, keep as busy as you can and as focus on your life here there as much as you can. It's hard not to hold them, be with them, but if you have an end in sight it's more than worth it, it won't kill you, seriously You won't be losing her. We can swap places if you like and you can decide whether to keep going with each other as you may never end the distance and only be able to see each other every 2 months, I'd swap with you in an instant Count your blessings, focus on the positives, you've plenty of them My gf is moving to Taiwan for about 10-11 months to study at a university there. I will be moving there about 5 months after her, to teach English and also so as to maintain our relationship. I feel like 10-11 months apart would be really difficult and potentially relationship ending, as that is a long time. What I am wondering is, how do you manage a relationship that is purely online for a period of time? I love her, but it will be hard to not be able to hold her. This is a trip that she has wanted to do since before we were dating, so I don't want to prevent her from following her dream, but at the same time I want to be there with her. She leaves in 9 days, so it is really getting down to the wire here. What do you do when your love is away? I feel like it will feel as if I could just head over to her place, but it won't be her place anymore. I feel slightly empty, as if I've lost something without actually having lost anything. I will be able to focus on my student teaching, but it will be difficult at the same time. Anybody have advice? I guess I should join the club. I won't be seeing her except for skype til late January/early February. What kind of advice do you have for someone who is just joining the LDR crowd? Thanks.
creighton0123 Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 I would say that a US to Taiwan LDR is much better than an East coast to West coast LDR. Why? The time difference is more ideal. Your evening is her morning. Her evening is your morning. Get Skype. Get a webcam. As much as possible, get in the habit of keeping open a video chat even if all you're doing is getting ready for work or watching television. You don't need to talk every time you can talk. Just knowing that your SO is there and can see you without having to talk to you is a great way to simulate spending time together. Oh... and you're most likely going to feel like crap for the first two weeks after she's gone. Call it the "left behind" emotions if you will. Communication may be infrequent and cut short as she settles in, but work with her to find a routine.
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