RedIvy Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 I left my boyfriend of 5 months last night. Our relationship was exciting in the beginning of course...but we started to really clash. I had self esteem issues and is seeking professional help for it. He was aware and promised he'd be there for me. Turns out, he didn't want to deal with my "BS issues" anymore as he cannot tolerate them. I get that I could have been difficult. I needed him. I needed support. Every fight we had, it was always my fault (according to him). I tried to tell him that it takes two to tango and its both of us in this fight. He started getting really angry over nothing, very mean and cold towards me-even my dog. He also called me a "miserable C U N T" one night because I was down about my issue. He'd tell me that it was because of me that he became mean and cold. He never took responsibility. He told me on our first date that one of his down falls was he could manipulate...why didn't I run then?? Anyway, we had good times of course, which is why I'm having a hard time. I left him last night. I had enough of his constant torture. Constantly telling me that it was my fault things aren't right. I talked to all my friends and family and all agree that this guy was way too cocky, arrogant and acted like a big-shot and are glad to see that I've left him. My question is, why do I feel so sad and lonely? I hate this. I hate having that feeling of never going to find that special man ever! Please help.
Nohbody Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Continue your therapy and be proactive in your treatment plan. If you are taking meds, do not stop. If you've stopped, start again. You don't need anyone else. You need to stand on your own two feet. No one can fix you but you, and you deserve to find someone you can be in a relationship with as an equal. Until you begin to really resolve your problems, you will have a much more difficult time in relationships than is necessary (and I'm told they are already quite difficult as it is). Good luck to you.
Chi townD Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 You need this time for yourself. To work on your self esteem issues. Once you look in the mirror and you like what you see, then other people will too. I am a firm believer that there is a guy out there for you. That is your "better half" and his looking for you right now, trying to find you. Don't worry, it will happen when you least expect it. Until then, you need to work on being a strong indepentant woman that you KNOW is inside of you and let her out!
Author RedIvy Posted August 17, 2011 Author Posted August 17, 2011 This is helpful. That's exactly what I want to do..is date myself! The hard part is accepting that. And riding this emotional rollercoaster.
Buttercup84 Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 I have self esteem issues and blame it for my ex falling out of love . He always blamed me for all our fights too . I'm getting help and am on medication. The breakup hurts like he'll but I'm using this new start to get better . Hope you do too xxx
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