My Friend says ugly men think they should date "supermodel" type women...true?

[zengirl]

I consider myself and have been told I am pretty darn attractive, but it does not bother me when a guy I'd consider not at all attractive messages me. I don't think people should automatically "know" who they can and can't try for. It did really bother me, when I was doing OLD, when a guy who was clearly outside my plainly listed age parameters messaged me. That's disrespecting my boundaries.

 

In person, it still bothers me when older guys approach me, but as long as the guy is fine with hearing, "I'm not into older guys. No thank you," that's fine. Some girls want much older men -- I don't get it, but the guy doesn't necessarily know that. I have found older men who approach me ALWAYS (without exception so far) try to "talk me into" changing my mind, and THAT pisses me off for the same reason stated above: That's disrespecting my boundaries.

 

I'm not a fan of online dating. Tried it a couple of times. Seems like alot of people are living in fantasy world there.

 

Ultimately came to the conclusion though, that the area I live might be a bigger reason with my disgust with this form of meeting people than the online dating mechanism itself. When I look at the options at places like Austin, TX... Seattle, WA... Boston, MA (places with a large diversity of people, careers, educational levels, ages, etc)... the options look amazing. Can't wait to get out of this little burg of mine!!

 

In general, I think it's easier to have a more complex and active social life in larger cities. The small towns are harder on singles, all around. Not that many people don't find love there.

[Els]

OP, I think online dating sites (not necessarily getting to know people online, per se), are some of the most shallow places imaginable. The laundry lists of requirements... I don't think it's just men either, I'm pretty sure women are equally guilty there, although possibly not just in the looks department. What did your friend list on her profile as her requirements?

 

Regardless, I do think that some ugly men somehow feel themselves entitled to beautiful girls, yes. Their question is, "Would you doom me to a life without a hot gf just because I'm not so hot? That's unfair! We have needs too!". But methinks if they wanted a good-looking partner so very badly, they would be putting a lot more effort into their own appearance, instead of crying like baby birds waiting to be fed.

 

 

 

But you would rather be with a guy with more money if given the option, right? Thats my point.

 

Just because a guy has dated ugly girls, doesnt mean he doesnt want a beautiful girlfriend. Thats just a logical fallacy.

 

LOL no. Just because you are that way, does not mean that every man and woman is. I wouldn't date a guy with more money whom I don't feel a connection with, nope. And yes, I had the option.

[sm1tten]

I'm not a fan of online dating. Tried it a couple of times. Seems like alot of people are living in fantasy world there.

 

Ultimately came to the conclusion though, that the area I live might be a bigger reason with my disgust with this form of meeting people than the online dating mechanism itself. When I look at the options at places like Austin, TX... Seattle, WA... Boston, MA (places with a large diversity of people, careers, educational levels, ages, etc)... the options look amazing. Can't wait to get out of this little burg of mine!!

 

I live in Chicago, and the dating options here are pretty good, but it's still hard. But it's definitely not as hard as my good friend has it living in western New York - he says all the women seem so similar that online dating is pointless.