My Friend says ugly men think they should date "supermodel" type women...true?

[CatNtheHat]

My best friend is doing the online dating thing. She was telling me that it seems alot of men think they should be able to date a woman that looks like a supermodel, even if they are not attractive themselves. I'm surprised she hasn't met a great guy. She is attractive, kind and has a great career. In my opinion she is a catch.

 

But she says the men on the dating sites are very specific about what they want physically in a woman. She says some of the men are fat, or ugly or just total bums. And than there are the older guys (45+) that think they should have a pick of the twenty somethings. My question is, why do some men that don't seem to have much going for themselves, whether its in the looks department or career, think they can get a "Heidi Klum" girlfriend?

Edited August 16, 2011 by CatNtheHat

[rafallus]

And some guys think opposite is true about women online.

 

Such debate will lead exactly nowhere and will bring gender haters of both sides to spread their agendas.

[CatNtheHat]

And some guys think opposite is true about women online.

 

Such debate will lead exactly nowhere and will bring gender haters of both sides to spread their agendas.

 

 

I tend to think men are a little more picky when it comes to the physical.

[musemaj11]

Men want beauty, women want money.

[CatNtheHat]

Men want beauty, women want money.

 

I wouldn't date a guy that I wasn't attracted to...and I have dated men that didn't have any money.

[musemaj11]

I wouldn't date a guy that I wasn't attracted to...and I have dated men that didn't have any money.

Wasnt it you who said that you wouldnt want to date a guy with no money again?

[CatNtheHat]

Wasnt it you who said that you wouldnt want to date a guy with no money again?

 

It would be very hard to go back to dating a "broke" guy, yes. But I have dated men with a modest income, two were long term relationships.

[musemaj11]

It would be very hard to go back to dating a "broke" guy, yes. But I have dated men with a modest income, two were long term relationships.

But you would rather be with a guy with more money if given the option, right? Thats my point.

 

Just because a guy has dated ugly girls, doesnt mean he doesnt want a beautiful girlfriend. Thats just a logical fallacy.

[Casablanca]

I tend to think men are a little more picky when it comes to the physical.

Though online I feel women lean a little more towards physical pickiness than off line...but hard to say

[AD1980]

Women are much more picky then guys online because theyres allot more Men then women on there and they can afford to be picky

 

If youre a guy under 5'10 then gettign a dae online is near impossible on some sites like pof

[CatNtheHat]

Women are much more picky then guys online because theyres allot more Men then women on there and they can afford to be picky

 

If youre a guy under 5'10 then gettign a dae online is near impossible on some sites like pof

 

 

I don't believe that. I know several couples where the guy is under 5'10 including my own boyfriend.

[AD1980]

I don't believe that. I know several couples where the guy is under 5'10 including my own boyfriend.

 

im talking online,almost every women has some height preference with 5'10 and up on some sites

 

ime online is mostly women trying to date up in looks and status because women have the power online with so many mroe dudes then women

[Casablanca]

I don't believe that. I know several couples where the guy is under 5'10 including my own boyfriend.

I think the poster you quoted is implying that is much harder for a shorter guy online than offline

[CatNtheHat]

I think the poster you quoted is implying that is much harder for a shorter guy online than offline

 

 

Thats what I'm talking about. I met my bf online and so did several of my friends.

[Casablanca]

Thats what I'm talking about. I met my bf online and so did several of my friends.

Ah, and I can add to that that my friend met his fiance on PoF and he is about 5'4

[verhrzn]

Though online I feel women lean a little more towards physical pickiness than off line...but hard to say

 

I'm not sure that it's women are pickier, I think it's that women are very attracted to "attitudes" (some call it confidence, chemistry, vibes, what have you.) These are obviously not available when you're looking through profiles, so you tend to go more on looks.

 

For example, I have a strong preference for short brunettes, and on a dating site, I'm going to go for my preference, because why would I choose a guy I'm not attracted to? However, I've dated several tall guys/blonde guys, all of whom I met in real life, because we had a strong chemistry and sense of connection.

 

I'd also say men aren't pickier online than they are offline... In both instances, they pick physical attractiveness as the primary selector and work from there.

[PJKino]

lol it seems like the opposite to me,allot of arrogant entitled ugly women looking for hot guys online..

[bikinibeach]

hey, i once had a mid-fifties five foot tall greeter at walmart be extra nice to me everytime i came by (i used to love walmart!).

 

i was polite but never lead him on.

 

then one day, he finally asked me if i had a boyfriend...!

 

ps: he was also bald and gap toothed but otherwise seemed perfectly sane...

[ThsAmericanLife]

I'm not a fan of online dating. Tried it a couple of times. Seems like alot of people are living in fantasy world there.

 

Ultimately came to the conclusion though, that the area I live might be a bigger reason with my disgust with this form of meeting people than the online dating mechanism itself. When I look at the options at places like Austin, TX... Seattle, WA... Boston, MA (places with a large diversity of people, careers, educational levels, ages, etc)... the options look amazing. Can't wait to get out of this little burg of mine!!

[CatNtheHat]

I'm not a fan of online dating. Tried it a couple of times. Seems like alot of people are living in fantasy world there.

 

Ultimately came to the conclusion though, that the area I live might be a bigger reason with my disgust with this form of meeting people than the online dating mechanism itself. When I look at the options at places like Austin, TX... Seattle, WA... Boston, MA (places with a large diversity of people, careers, educational levels, ages, etc)... the options look amazing. Can't wait to get out of this little burg of mine!!

 

 

I live in the Boston area...Only been here a few months, but I really enjoy it.

[sm1tten]

I think that in general people overshoot with their expectations online. So what?

 

Any time you spend assed about the expectations of others and whether or not you meet them is time wasted.

[daphne]

I think online women do seem quite a bit pickier than men. Offline, I must admit there are a lot of guys who seem to ascribe to this mentality. I have run into my share of highly unsuitable suitors (rednecks, highly unattractive fat bald men, guys old enough to be my daddy) that seemed a little entitled to something better than they could give. And the way they talk about women being entitled is pretty funny too. "She has kids and lives in the suburbs and is MY age. What was she thinking?" Oh wait, that was an online guy. Ok, so guys offline and online have that entitlement thing too.

 

he he.

[Woggle]

Neither gender has a monopoly on unrealistic expectations.

[FitChick]

She was telling me that it seems alot of men think they should be able to date a woman that looks like a supermodel, even if they are not attractive themselves.

 

But she says the men on the dating sites are very specific about what they want physically in a woman.

 

These are men who are new to online dating. I call them Catalog Daters. Initially their checklist of requirements is very specific in terms of hair and eye color, height, income, hobbies, etc. Keep checking their profile as weeks go by and pretty soon all the little boxes say "Any, Any, Any" which always makes me laugh. Just because you want something doesn't mean you will get it. They either swear off dating altogether (a good thing) or become more realistic.

[Sanman]

I'm not a fan of online dating. Tried it a couple of times. Seems like alot of people are living in fantasy world there.

 

Ultimately came to the conclusion though, that the area I live might be a bigger reason with my disgust with this form of meeting people than the online dating mechanism itself. When I look at the options at places like Austin, TX... Seattle, WA... Boston, MA (places with a large diversity of people, careers, educational levels, ages, etc)... the options look amazing. Can't wait to get out of this little burg of mine!!

 

Just be aware, there are great options in such places, but it also turns into a dating mill as all these great options have many other great options besides you. I did online dating mill in NYC and date many amazing women who also dated other amazing men. None us ever committed and I still see many of them actively online today.

 

The the OP, all of thus want a wealthy and great looking spouse/SO. Reality reduces our expectations from there. No one goes to sleep fantasizing about meeting a poor and ugly person.