intigo Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 im 29 my ex is 28 she is a wonderfull girl im deeply in love with her. she was hurt in the past and really had lost trust in men she was in denial she has a lot of fears.when i met her we were dating for a month until she said i see you as i friend i continued dating her and after 5 days!!! she felt she was falling for me we made love after 10 days and i thought she was feeling like i was, but she told me her feelings come and go... she cant explain it herself she told me i want to fall in love with you!!! after 3 months she said she is not in love with me i am all she ever wanted but shes not in love.we broke up 14 days ago i asked her if there is a chance in the future she said i dont know i forced her for an answer and she said there isnt but im not sure!!!!! i might regret this but its going to be to late!! whats thats suppose to mean? i am really confused i cant believe i lost her do i have ANY hope in the future with her? she was really sincere to me from the begining she says she has a lot of things in her mind and wants to be alone should i go to LC or NC i m now on NC for 6 days last time we talkshe told me i want to talk to you as a friend i told her how i feel that we have a past and that is not possible she replied then just talk i told her to keep an open window for me she said maybe!!! im losing my mind please please give me some advice
janbaz Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Sorry intigo, I can understand your feelings. But do you work to try to figure out what's actually went wrong. I mean, if she is ready to reconcile with you, what else the thing that is hindering her way to get back to you? Is she ok with her job and things? Her family. If you are her bf, go as a responsible person. Rather to get her, first try to solve her problem. I am seeing all this like this way. Please be strong. And dont beg the love. Show her the firmness in you. We guys some time very touchy and sensitive like girls about our love ones. But world is ruthless. And man are made to be rule. When we want some thing, we have it. And when some thing is out of our control, we dont bother anymore to waste our energy and time. I dont know if I can help, but I just want you to think about yourself. I am also in NC for 3 days. And I am not hoping her to knock my door. I just want to let things go. And want to concentrate on myself. Smile and why not you go out with your friends and watch a movie.
KathyM Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 im 29 my ex is 28 she is a wonderfull girl im deeply in love with her. she was hurt in the past and really had lost trust in men she was in denial she has a lot of fears.when i met her we were dating for a month until she said i see you as i friend i continued dating her and after 5 days!!! she felt she was falling for me we made love after 10 days and i thought she was feeling like i was, but she told me her feelings come and go... she cant explain it herself she told me i want to fall in love with you!!! after 3 months she said she is not in love with me i am all she ever wanted but shes not in love.we broke up 14 days ago i asked her if there is a chance in the future she said i dont know i forced her for an answer and she said there isnt but im not sure!!!!! i might regret this but its going to be to late!! whats thats suppose to mean? i am really confused i cant believe i lost her do i have ANY hope in the future with her? she was really sincere to me from the begining she says she has a lot of things in her mind and wants to be alone should i go to LC or NC i m now on NC for 6 days last time we talkshe told me i want to talk to you as a friend i told her how i feel that we have a past and that is not possible she replied then just talk i told her to keep an open window for me she said maybe!!! im losing my mind please please give me some advice She's given you the message that she just wants a friendship. I don't think it works to be just a friend if one of the parties wants more than that. She's trying to let you down easy. Allow her to do that. You can't force a person to feel something they don't. Just let her be, and spend your energy finding someone you can have a relationship with.
Author intigo Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Sorry intigo, I can understand your feelings. But do you work to try to figure out what's actually went wrong. I mean, if she is ready to reconcile with you, what else the thing that is hindering her way to get back to you? Is she ok with her job and things? Her family. If you are her bf, go as a responsible person. Rather to get her, first try to solve her problem. I am seeing all this like this way. Please be strong. And dont beg the love. Show her the firmness in you. We guys some time very touchy and sensitive like girls about our love ones. But world is ruthless. And man are made to be rule. When we want some thing, we have it. And when some thing is out of our control, we dont bother anymore to waste our energy and time. I dont know if I can help, but I just want you to think about yourself. I am also in NC for 3 days. And I am not hoping her to knock my door. I just want to let things go. And want to concentrate on myself. Smile and why not you go out with your friends and watch a movie. she has fears about losing her loved ones she doesnt know know what to do with her life she told me me that i m all she wanted but she could fall in love with me tottaly!! is there such a thing? i have survived many break ups but this is the worst i thought she was the one : (
janbaz Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 she has fears about losing her loved ones she doesnt know know what to do with her life she told me me that i m all she wanted but she could fall in love with me tottaly!! is there such a thing? i have survived many break ups but this is the worst i thought she was the one : ( Is her family in some crisis. Or some casualty (God forbids) changed her life? If she said to you that you are every thing to her. Why not you give it a test try? I don't believe on people who once in a relationship and then start staying again under the hood of friendship. If you made love, you are in relationship. She is confused. And I suggest you try to make her big helper. Or show some thing concrete that can never separate your from her. If you are in NC. Continue. Be strong. And see if she come back. If don't, let her go. I know it's painful. But I don't want you to suffer for any relation. You have one life. I don't want you to waste time in just being useless. Every thing gona be all right.
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