Author danceallday Posted September 9, 2011 Author Posted September 9, 2011 @VB - thank you so much for your encouragement. I mis-counted, I am at 8 weeks/2 months nc. Yes, a hobby is a good thing and keep busy is a must. I was at a fashion show for a friend last night and it was so much fun. I am starting to feel more like my old self and I really appreciate all of the good, unbiased advice from people on this forum.
Author danceallday Posted September 15, 2011 Author Posted September 15, 2011 I am at 9 weeks nc. I see him one of the places I work from time-to-time and I just ignore him. It breaks my heart. I spent so many years and so much time with that person and cared for him so deeply and because of his ridiculous actions I now have to treat him like a stranger.
Fleabitten Posted September 15, 2011 Posted September 15, 2011 What a sad, sad story. Well done for no contact. I'm not in a positive place to offer great advice at the moment but my heart goes out to you.
Author danceallday Posted September 22, 2011 Author Posted September 22, 2011 10 weeks nc - I do still have the occassional crying jag and depression, but I have a much better vision of what it is that I want and don't want. I am not ready to date and that is okay. I do feel much stronger and am enjoying spending time on my own and with friends. I do still miss him every day. I miss the good guy I fell in love with though, not the ass clown he became. I also have an overall sense that what he did was so ridiculous and unnecessary. It is my birthday this weekend and I plan enjoying myself. A little food, some nice drinks and people that I care about - that sounds like a good Birthday to me. Oh, and shopping, lots of shopping!
Author danceallday Posted September 26, 2011 Author Posted September 26, 2011 It is my Birthday today and the first email I got was from my ex-ex. I also got a text from my high school boyfriend. But I did not get anything from my ex. He told his Mother to tell me Happy Birthday. How pathetic is that?
Author danceallday Posted September 29, 2011 Author Posted September 29, 2011 I am at week 11 of nc. I can't wait until I stop counting and thinking about him. If anyone is contemplating going nc because of an ex's stupid and insensitive actions, I highly recommend it. It is difficult and I miss him everyday, but I feel better than I have in years. I also am coming to understand the things that I did that contributed to the relationship's demise.
Author danceallday Posted October 1, 2011 Author Posted October 1, 2011 I have been feeling the last few days very weird physically, not been able to sleep and very edgy on Friday. I called my ex's Mother (very close to her) and asked if my ex was okay. I just felt like he wasn't for some reason. I am not sure why, just a feeling. I just found out that my ex is going through some really rough stuff. My heart really goes out to him and I am hoping he is okay and sending him positive thoughts and prayers. I still care about him very much and would never want him to go through this crap he is dealing with right now.
Author danceallday Posted October 6, 2011 Author Posted October 6, 2011 (edited) After 3 months I broke nc and sent my ex an email because he is going through some really difficult stuff. I wanted to let him know that I support him - very neutral email. I am not expecting a response, but I felt it was important to let him know. On the other side of it, I almost forgot to post how much time has passed. That feels like a positive step. I hope if anyone reads this they learn something and realize that they can survive their break up. Edited October 6, 2011 by danceallday
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