fauxleather Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Well, I guess all traditional breakups gotta come to this day. My BU is really shaping up to be the traditional breakup nonsense. I finally got some closure I guess, but just 2 months is really kinda quick. All the photos of them...I guess there really is just going to be more of it, eh? All the fun times they are going to have, all the wonderful moments, it's definitely going to be fantastic. Having really mixed feelings now. I guess I should be happy. I should be glad I'm finally done with that "mixed signals" nonsense. I should be glad that, considering the 6-7 weeks of NC that I gave her after BU even after she contacted me, and supposedly a really deep "love" between us, he might really just be a rebound considering he's not all that great looking. I might be deluding myself, but I should really be glad. I hope I don't breakdown. Gotta do this for myself. I must be strong. Thank you LS for always being an open channel for me to rant my views in anonymity. All advice and encouraging words are welcome.
ShoeGurl1973 Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 I feel your pain. I just logged in to FB Sunday and saw pics of my ex on his birthday celebration with the new GF. Talk about a punch to the gut. I had defriended him, but I didn't defriend my friends that were also tagged in the photo. It's hard, really hard. You look at them, judge them, compare yourself to them etc. My ex's new girl is the exact opposite of me, seems a little rowdy and obnoxious considering how she was hanging all over people and kissing my friends she can't possibly know very well yet. That is so not me. I'm a classy girl that likes a glass of wine and my hair to be done. She looks like a no makeup, no hair style, beer drinking kinda gal. I guess he figured he'd try the exact opposite. Honestly, she is probably more suited to him I guess. I feel like I have been sent back to day one after my breakup. Good thing I left a handful of my original Xanax prescription in the bottle specifically for the day this happened lol. Talk about good planning on my part Try to feel better. If you want to drink and chat on the phone about your heartache, let me know. It helps to have someone going through the same thing.
Author fauxleather Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Thanks ShoeGurl, really. But in a way, I'm actually quite glad. Now, I can REALLY god damn move on and stop pinning hopes on reconciling. Judging from her character that I know of and her post-BU mixed signals, honestly, this is one messed up person I'm talking about. I don't see how anyone can be upset over a breakup, to the extent of blocking you and making it publicly known, but yet still miraculously get together with someone officially in such a short span of time. If it's a clean happy break and she got together with him, I can understand. But if it's a messy confused break and she got together with him, honestly, I wouldn't want to be in this guy's shoes. I might be self-deluding, but I can totally imagining the criticisms and impression she's giving her friends and family now. Why? Because ironically, I was in her exact same position. I broke up with my ex of 2+years to get together with this one within a month or so, only to have been dumped in a short span of 3-4 months. I had to endure the criticisms my friends gave and the guilt that I had in me. It's really funny how life turns out isn't it?
sleepykitten Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Hey there fauxleather, and shoeGurl-yep it sucks! I am in the same boat but think mine had met her prior to our break up, although he strongly denys it, but whatever he was "in a relationship" with her less than 3 weeks out and still giving me mixed signals and being intimate with me when he was with and lying to me as i asked him on many occassions. But like you FL at least I know and its done now, a door firmly closed and no more wondering and analyzing - mind you my wondering and analyzing has just taken on a different path. Its been one week nc, and just over a week since i found out. I hope it gets easier. Shoegurl-my ex too is with someone the polar opposite of me, trashy, chavvy and just a bit immature judging by her open fb page where i tortured myself by reading all her stautus updates on every movement they had made together and just how amazing he is!!! Interestingly he hadnt even clikcked on "like" or responded, but they are both blocked now so i cant torture myself any longer-only in my head. When when when will this be over.
Author fauxleather Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Hi there sleepykitten. You know what people? Let's upkeep our image as a strong and unfazed ex. Our situations all seem to be the same. Whoever this new person is, he or she is really partly there to just soak up the damage that's carried forward. Whatever this new person has experienced with our ex, we all already had it first-hand. In the process of our ex getting together with this person in such a short span of time, I'm sure there has been mumblings and gossips behind their back about how they can just jump from one relationship to another. Despite all of that, we are just going to be quiet and be strong. Gosh, after typing all that, I really hope I do NOT break down.
John Michael Kane Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Well, I guess all traditional breakups gotta come to this day. My BU is really shaping up to be the traditional breakup nonsense. I finally got some closure I guess, but just 2 months is really kinda quick. All the photos of them...I guess there really is just going to be more of it, eh? All the fun times they are going to have, all the wonderful moments, it's definitely going to be fantastic. Having really mixed feelings now. I guess I should be happy. I should be glad I'm finally done with that "mixed signals" nonsense. I should be glad that, considering the 6-7 weeks of NC that I gave her after BU even after she contacted me, and supposedly a really deep "love" between us, he might really just be a rebound considering he's not all that great looking. I might be deluding myself, but I should really be glad. I hope I don't breakdown. Gotta do this for myself. I must be strong. Thank you LS for always being an open channel for me to rant my views in anonymity. All advice and encouraging words are welcome. Hey we know how you feel but try doing things for yourself for a while. The pain will not ease until another few months. When you "get through" this you'll see that she wasn't all that special. Mourn but keep yourself busy for as long as you can.
Author fauxleather Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 I'm actually already pretty freaking busy. And it honestly did not help. What I really needed was some closure and confirmation, and that I got. I just hope I can pull through this.
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