Davy Jones Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Hello, hope all is well with the community... Anybody currently reading, or have read this book? I inituated some counseling help, for my marriage of course, but after having a long discussion with the counelor, he suggested I come alone for two or three sessions. See, I was dealing with an issuse that happened many many years ago, still holding a grudge against my wife & it was starting to make me go mad, crazy mad. He could see that until I address my problem of not letting it go, joint counseling would be foggy at best. After my first session it started to hit me, I was starting to see clearly again, felt like total **** at this point, because looking back, I realized that I had been treating my wife kinda ****ty at times. Anyway,its a long story, we have been married for over 25 years with two boys, one is 26 the other is only 8. Getting back to the book, after my second session he suggest...well, actually he demanded I read "the seven priciples of making marrage work". I gotta tell'ya, the book does not sugar coat things, its in your face facts & some of it hurts & hits home. I layed it down on the table after some deep reading, now the wife is well aware of me going to counseling, as she is next, then we go as a pair...but anyway she picked up the book & started thumbing through it. I'm thinking it could be detremental, to start reading a page or phrase that could be taken out of context...something like when it says..."if you do this, then your marrage is domed" or "Jane & Mac devorced because of that" someone might get the wrong idea. The thing about the book is, is doesnt start out by holding your hand & telling you everything is going to be ok, it's kinda rough, but as you get going you can see where its taking you...on a journey to save your marrage, or make it better, & its giving you the proper tools, its kind of like having to break a few eggs to make an omelet...you might get bent before you get straight. Anyway, obviously I ramble. But I'm wondering what you think of the book? what about my wife picking it up & reading at random, like reading the direction for putting something together, but start on page 12? Also, our sex life it fan-freaking-tastic, after all our problems, & all these years, we still hit it like were in our teens, however...we still have the same'ol problem...whos going to ask for it first? does she want me? Do you think it would be offensive to bring some literature home about "improving your sex life" type material? even though were great in bed? & while I'm in the middle of a book about saving our marrage, wouldnt mind talking our sex life over the top, but I'm very fortunate as it is, not being gready...just want to be able to blow my wifes mind sometimes. Thanks for any feedback...
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