Bob75 Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 So I have a situation I would love some feedback on. Been dating a woman close to a year who is addicted to travel and exploring and Im crazy about her. This summer I had a chance to take a temporary job out near Laguna Beach for 13 weeks...mile from the beach and apt paid for by my company. My girlfriend decided to take 8 weeks vacation, and one of the reasons I did take job was I figured she would spend a few weeks out with me and the rest traveling because I know its important to her. Well she decided to take all her 8 weeks away. Down in Mexico and Central America. Her girlfriend is spending half the time with her the other half she is off exploring on her own with random travelors she has already met. I completely trust her, even though her blogs speak of exploring in the day and drinking and dancing on tables every other night it seems. What bothers me, is the fact she doesn't want to even spend one of her eight weeks off out visiting me. I work 3 days a week and she would have my full attention the other 4...she mentioned that she has seen Orange County and the fact I work 3 of the days she would be bored just hanging out....yet she will be by herself throughout the last few weeks of her trip. I have tried to ignore my feelings, but know when she gets back I will probably resentful and she will wonder why Im not doing cartwheels on her arrival and asking her all about the fun adventures she has had...so am I over analyzing the situation or do I have a valid argument???
Mr. Slim Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Eight weeks vacation?!? Must be nice... I've dated a few women who had wanderlust and it just didn't work out. Now I like to take a couple of trips a year (unfortunately I don't get 8 weeks) and the occasional weekender, but these women literally could not sit still for even a weekend. I like travel as much as the next guy but at some point you have to rest and save some money. Not surprisingly, they were always broke as well... As far as your situation goes, while I can see why you're a bit upset, I'm not sure you have a huge case here. Would you really want to deny her what sounds like a great passion of hers? It sounds like you need to get in on the fun! Do you also share her love for travel?
Author Bob75 Posted August 16, 2011 Author Posted August 16, 2011 Well Mr Slim since she runs her own business and rents out her place while she travels, taking 2 months off twice a year is easy for her. I unfortunately cannot take that much time off either and when Im on my 13 week contracts I dont get vacation time during them. Between assignments yes bu they are unpaid...so I do not have income still comming in like she does unfortunately. I have yet to travel much due to my fear of flying..yes makes us complete opposites i know, but was hoping she may be the one person I can get over this with.
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