dreamingoftigers Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Glad that you posting junkies and great 'I know more than you' and 'I gatta have the last word' debaters are leaving Van's new thread alone - really to bad you ruinning this one with your attention. Wish LS moderators would open a thread for you people so you can demonstrate tobeach other have very brilliant and important you are! I think that you are off-topic.
Author Lexygirl Posted August 18, 2011 Author Posted August 18, 2011 I've learned the hard way about putting expiration dates on a marriage. It causes a ton of pressure. I know the fear is that you might let something go on forever, but really we don't tend to prolong things longer then we need to. Eventually you come to a decision what sacrifice you want to make. And either way there is always a sacrifice. That's they sucky thing about relationships, having to puck whether it would be 60% better this way or 40% better that way and what has the best chance of improving and making you both happy. Hope IC helps a lot. :-) Yep. Thanks.
nyrias Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 And how does this help solve the situation. Not any more or less than your "it is" .. "it is not" exchange.
Crabbies Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 I love the I'm always right attitude. You'd be surprised how easy it is to share their wives And being as their always right, they never know:bunny::bunny: Good point...truth hurts like a mofo....
John Michael Kane Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Not any more or less than your "it is" .. "it is not" exchange. Yes it does.
nyrias Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Yes it does. NO. it does not. (See, does not help at all, but please doing it since u seem to get such pleasure out of simple things in life. Life must be hard on you.)
John Michael Kane Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 NO. it does not. Yes it does. (See, does not help at all, but please doing it since u seem to get such pleasure out of simple things in life. Life must be hard on you.)Life is treating me well.
GG2W Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 nyrias Finally, somebody gets it. I have been trying for months to let other members to understand how easy it is to seduce their wives. I prey on married women partly because they are easy And wives of control freak husbands are at the top of the list
Crabbies Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 nyrias Finally, somebody gets it. I have been trying for months to let other members to understand how easy it is to seduce their wives. I prey on married women partly because they are easy And wives of control freak husbands are at the top of the list Must agree with this... these women get hit on by everyone from the bellboy to their boss just everyone, because their pain, their humiliation is visible to the world and they are desperate for kindness and comfort... It takes little more than a smile...
rafallus Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 nyrias Finally, somebody gets it. I have been trying for months to let other members to understand how easy it is to seduce their wives. I prey on married women partly because they are easy And wives of control freak husbands are at the top of the list Heh heh heh. I presume you must really like that adrenaline, when you don't know if husband happens to be a complete psycho, who also may happen to have a gun. Well, getting killed by betrayed husband would make for a dramatic tale. All I'm saying is, watch your back, son. And enjoy life, while it lasts.
Owl Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 nyrias Finally, somebody gets it. I have been trying for months to let other members to understand how easy it is to seduce their wives. I prey on married women partly because they are easy And wives of control freak husbands are at the top of the list Your mother must be so proud!
dreamingoftigers Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Must agree with this... these women get hit on by everyone from the bellboy to their boss just everyone, because their pain, their humiliation is visible to the world and they are desperate for kindness and comfort... It takes little more than a smile... Try leaving the world and the people in it a better place when you encounter them. You may end up finding it more thrilling and much healthier for yourself in the long run. Setting the bar for yourself as being someone to get a control-freak's wife cannot be positive for your own self-reflection, nor much of accomplishment after a time.
Woggle Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 nyrias Finally, somebody gets it. I have been trying for months to let other members to understand how easy it is to seduce their wives. I prey on married women partly because they are easy And wives of control freak husbands are at the top of the list Very true. Any player will tell you that married women are the easiest women of all to seduce.
Crabbies Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 Try leaving the world and the people in it a better place when you encounter them. You may end up finding it more thrilling and much healthier for yourself in the long run. Setting the bar for yourself as being someone to get a control-freak's wife cannot be positive for your own self-reflection, nor much of accomplishment after a time. Where in my post did I say I was one of these people? Most unkind assumption on your part... completely inaccurate as well...
Severely Unamused Posted August 19, 2011 Posted August 19, 2011 (edited) Heh heh heh. I presume you must really like that adrenaline, when you don't know if husband happens to be a complete psycho, who also may happen to have a gun. Well, getting killed by betrayed husband would make for a dramatic tale. All I'm saying is, watch your back, son. And enjoy life, while it lasts. Eh, seducing MWs provides an ego boost. Hell, bragging on this site also provides an ego boost. To be honest, there is some f_cked up psychology going on, if that is how one builds up their self-esteem, not to mention the need for attention. If it makes you guys feel any better, I've been hit on by player types, and I find it hard to take them seriously. It really depends on your wife's mindset. Edited August 19, 2011 by Severely Unamused
PatFinkle Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 nyrias Finally, somebody gets it. I have been trying for months to let other members to understand how easy it is to seduce their wives. I prey on married women partly because they are easy And wives of control freak husbands are at the top of the list Maybe it's you who are easy.
Woggle Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Maybe it's you who are easy. I think both are easy.
Crabbies Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 I have seen known many of these women with controlling overbearing husbands. Most are lovely people who've been brought to their proverbial knees by a man who has no concept of the damage he does to tham and the children... I have compassion for these women.. Those who prey on them I feel differently about...
Untouchable_Fire Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 (edited) You make some good points and thank you for your perspective. A couple things that aren't correct are these..... The attraction never started waning til I got so totally fed up with our issues that it was impossible to think of him as a sexual being anymore. Can you tell me -- in what way am I am humiliating and belittling him? Trust me, I have held back and kept ALOT inside. If coming out and being honest is considered humiliation then I'm guilty but I call it open communication. I read a number of your posts where you tell him that you are not attracted to him, and that he doesn't do it for you in bed. You may be able to heal that damage... but first you need to accept that his poor performance in bed. You've basically created a situation where you stripped his confidence away given him performance anxiety. Edited August 22, 2011 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
MusicMan1234 Posted August 23, 2011 Posted August 23, 2011 Putting this in the Infidelity forum was a mistake. You get these holier than thou anti-cheating fanatics that don't really understand anything about this situation. Ladies and gentlemen (gentlemen at least), this problem has nothing to do with her 'cheating' - if you think about it you'll realize that the problem predates the 'cheating', and said 'cheating' actually happened when they were SEPARATED. In my book, that wasn't cheating. Furthermore, she was honest and open with her husband about it. Again, stop dwelling on the idea that the core of the problem stems from infidelity, because it doesn't (granted, this was posted in this forum, so I can see the confusion). I'm guessing MusicMan1234 is not married, or wasn't married long (if you are married, good luck). You can't just pursue a 'hobby' willy-nilly, completely ignoring how it will impact your partner or the financial state of your household. No husband or wife can spend all the financial resources and time on a hobby unilaterally, while neglecting their partner entirely.. at least not without consequences. It doesn't make her a nagging wife, it makes him a neglectful, selfish husband, ignorant of his partner's well-being. I think an open marriage is certainly an option, but I think the obsticle to that will be Lexygirl more than it will be her husband. I think her husband will damn near welcome relinquishing sexual obligation with her, honestly. Lexy... an open marriage will grant you sexual freedom to satisfy your basic sexual needs, but I'm not sure that is really the need you are looking to satisfy. If what you actually want is sexual satisfaction from a loving partner, then as long as you're married, this will likely go unfulfilled. However, an open marriage will keep you 'comfortable' and spare you from feeling lonely... things that you would suffer if you pursued a full divorce and rolled the dice on finding a new loving relationship. You're right, i'm not married. If I was though, I would support my partner in everything they wished to endeavor. In return, because I was supported them so unflinchingly they would show consideration for my well being and the state of our finances et cetera. Despite what you may think, in reality people do not respond to coercion and nagging someone is not only unproductive, but destructive. Also, anyone who condones an open marriage is a fool.
John Michael Kane Posted August 25, 2011 Posted August 25, 2011 You're right, i'm not married. If I was though, I would support my partner in everything they wished to endeavor. In return, because I was supported them so unflinchingly they would show consideration for my well being and the state of our finances et cetera. Despite what you may think, in reality people do not respond to coercion and nagging someone is not only unproductive, but destructive. Also, anyone who condones an open marriage is a fool. Great post.
Memphis Raines Posted August 29, 2011 Posted August 29, 2011 Putting this in the Infidelity forum was a mistake. You get these holier than thou anti-cheating fanatics that don't really understand anything about this situation. so which part of the forum should one go when they cheat, don't give their betrayed spouse time to heal, and act like they should just get over it and act like they want them to act? which part of the forum should one go when they cheat, and expect everything to go their way even in the aftermath?
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