christine393 Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Hi, I'm new to this forum and thought I'd give it a try! I feel a little silly posting here, but I read a few other forums and decided to go for it. I've been with my boyfriend about 10 months. We live about twenty minutes apart and both work in our respective locations. He's 23, and I'm 22. Things are good but lately I've just felt a change. A shift in attitude I suppose. He spends most of his time with his friends and we don't spend more than one day a week together. When I do see him, it's as if nothings changed and I am very happy. But we'll often go 3-4 days without talking or texting and I'm not sure what to do. I have trouble initiating dates because he is my first relationship and I'm very against seeming needy or insecure. I know I'm partly to blame for the sudden ice in our relationship because when I felt him backing off a little, I did too. And he is the type of person who gets insecure if I don't make an effort. But it is hard to make an effort when you feel as if the other person is losing interest. What should I do? :/
Janesays Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 If you're unhappy, talk it out. Maybe you're just not emotionally compatible and that's OK. But wouldn't it be nice to find out sooner rather than later?
Eddie Edirol Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 You can talk to him about it. If he says nothing is wrong, then he is losing interest, so you need to back off more. If he says he thought you were backing off, so he started to leave you alone, then you might be able to save it.
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