superchiefs Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 So I hadnt talked to my ex in quite some time. This past Thursday, she contacted me and she released new details about our break up to me. Apparently, before the break up, which took place on Easter, she had a married male coworker of hers going through a divorce and telling her that she was in a bad relationship. Because she is weak minded, she believed him. She broke up with me on Easter, he filed for divorce in May. She started dating him some time in late May or early June. His divorce was finalized some time in July. He also had several other women that he was sleeping with, but my ex was not aware of what he was doing. She just thought he was a good guy in a bad marriage. Well, it turns out, my ex caught him in some lies about sleeping with other women and now she is heart broken. She apologized to me several times for the pain that she caused me and she said that the only reason she was contacting me was because she didnt have anyone else to talk to. She is seeing 2 pyschiatrists and a therapist and is taking all sorts of medication. She is a complete mess. I am just greatful that the guy did what he did before I married her. Because she is so weak minded, if it had not been her coworker, I am sure some other guy at some point in life could have gotten in to her head and convinced her what a bad relationship she was in. And who knows, by that time, we could have had children together and it would have been a real mess. In the mean time, I have been dating the same girl for 7 weeks now and have never been happier. I just got done spending the entire weekend at my girlfriend's place and we had a total blast just hanging out together.
Chi townD Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Well, what did she expect you to say to that? I mean the girl ripped your heart out. I suspected that she wanted to get together for coffee and talk or something?
Author superchiefs Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 Well, what did she expect you to say to that? I mean the girl ripped your heart out. I suspected that she wanted to get together for coffee and talk or something? Nice call man. She said, "if you wanted to hang out some time, I would be cool with that". My response was, "I will have to check with my girlfriend before doing something like that"
Nohbody Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Superchiefs, we were dumped on the same day! It's funny seeing how many people who showed up around the same time I did have been contacted by their exs. Just goes to show, I suppose.
Chi townD Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Hee...hee...nice little dig. Well, at least you proved to her that life DOES go on without her. She made this bed, she gets to lay in it.
immitable Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I truly believe that karma does exist and in your case, it got her .
Layzie89 Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 ...you should go meet her, act like you want to date her and then turn around and rub her face in the large stinky mess she made. WINNING
poorguy Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 This is karma pure and simple. People like your ex get people like that guy!!!
wilsonx Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Eh... this has nothing to do with Karma at all. I know a lot of people believe in Karma but you shouldn't think of it that way. In the end we all know our ex's made huge mistakes except for lurch's(just_scott) his ex was right on. They made mistakes, we are growing and becoming better people because of it and we will find better people in the end. Just use this as a stepping stone time and in life.
poorguy Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 If its not karma then its just proof that water seeks its own level. Birds of a feather flock together. For every action there is an equal reaction..just saying Agreed except for Lurch
sun_moon Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Eh... this has nothing to do with Karma at all. I know a lot of people believe in Karma but you shouldn't think of it that way. In the end we all know our ex's made huge mistakes except for lurch's(just_scott) his ex was right on. They made mistakes, we are growing and becoming better people because of it and we will find better people in the end. Just use this as a stepping stone time and in life. LOL Wilsonx, that little comment, that was mean. Remember there are many many people on this earth that are just not self aware! I dont know, I believe what you say but also believe in karma. Bad decisions lead to bad consequences, I totally agree on that. I also believe someone who harms someone emotionally (or other means) and is intentional about it has a ton of karma waiting for them. Some people lack a sense of compassion, to those people, I feel sorry for.
Author superchiefs Posted August 18, 2011 Author Posted August 18, 2011 Another update on the drama. So I contacted my ex's cheating boyfriend's ex wife just to verify what my ex was saying about him being a cheater. I guess the ex wife was still pretty sensitive about the whole cheating and divorce because I gave her information that she did not have. She knew he was a cheater, she just didnt know who with. I filled in some blanks for her. So my ex then contacted me last night and told me that I ruined several people's lives by contacting her cheating boyfriend's ex wife including my ex's, my ex's boyfriend's ex wife, the ex husband of one of my ex's boyfriends women that he slept with and several others. Just to explain: The ex wife contacted a guy and let him know that her ex husband had been having an affair with that guy's ex wife. Apparently that guy didnt know about the affair, he just thought his wife divorced him because they didnt get along. The ex wife also contacted my ex and ripped her for sleeping with her husband. I found it all to be quite interesting. It definitely sounds like a Jerry Springer situation where more and more people could be called out on to the stage.
geegirl Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Another update on the drama. So I contacted my ex's cheating boyfriend's ex wife just to verify what my ex was saying about him being a cheater. I guess the ex wife was still pretty sensitive about the whole cheating and divorce because I gave her information that she did not have. She knew he was a cheater, she just didnt know who with. I filled in some blanks for her. So my ex then contacted me last night and told me that I ruined several people's lives by contacting her cheating boyfriend's ex wife including my ex's, my ex's boyfriend's ex wife, the ex husband of one of my ex's boyfriends women that he slept with and several others. Just to explain: The ex wife contacted a guy and let him know that her ex husband had been having an affair with that guy's ex wife. Apparently that guy didnt know about the affair, he just thought his wife divorced him because they didnt get along. The ex wife also contacted my ex and ripped her for sleeping with her husband. I found it all to be quite interesting. It definitely sounds like a Jerry Springer situation where more and more people could be called out on to the stage. You should be focusing on the woman that you are dating and about to be engaged to versus getting mentally and emotionally tangled and distracted with your ex's situation. If you are wanting to start a life with someone else, this should be none of your concern. Your attention should be solely on what's ahead of you, not what's behind. And that is, if, you have put this woman behind. You are not being fair to the person you are presently with if you're still meddling with your past.
Author superchiefs Posted August 18, 2011 Author Posted August 18, 2011 Hi geegirl, I give the girl I am dating now as much of my time as she wants. Also, my girlfriend knows all about the situation and she finds it all amusing. Last Saturday, she even went as far as encouraging me log in to my facebook account to see if my ex would contact me, and sure enough, my ex contacted me within a couple of minutes of logging in. My girlfriend then sat there and coached me on what to say to my ex. So I guess what my point is, is that my current girlfriend is actually encouraging me to keep in contact with my ex and the drama that is going on in her life.
vsmini Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Hi geegirl, I give the girl I am dating now as much of my time as she wants. Also, my girlfriend knows all about the situation and she finds it all amusing. Last Saturday, she even went as far as encouraging me log in to my facebook account to see if my ex would contact me, and sure enough, my ex contacted me within a couple of minutes of logging in. My girlfriend then sat there and coached me on what to say to my ex. So I guess what my point is, is that my current girlfriend is actually encouraging me to keep in contact with my ex and the drama that is going on in her life. Your girlfriend sat next to you and coached you on what to say to your ex? Sounds like all 3 of you are drama queens. Geegirl is right - you shouldn't concern yourself at all with your ex and if she bring so much "drama" then you shouldn't be taking her calls or engaging with her on facebook at all. Sorry to say but it's extremely childish and mean-spirited on everyone's part.
geegirl Posted August 18, 2011 Posted August 18, 2011 Hi geegirl, I give the girl I am dating now as much of my time as she wants. Also, my girlfriend knows all about the situation and she finds it all amusing. Last Saturday, she even went as far as encouraging me log in to my facebook account to see if my ex would contact me, and sure enough, my ex contacted me within a couple of minutes of logging in. My girlfriend then sat there and coached me on what to say to my ex. So I guess what my point is, is that my current girlfriend is actually encouraging me to keep in contact with my ex and the drama that is going on in her life. There is such a lack of maturity in this whole situation. Two people who want a fresh start together should not be engaging in situations that take away from the life that they should be preparing for each other. Instead of focusing on your life together, you two are focusing on drama and worst of all, creating more of it. You and your girlfriend see it amusing to all play in the mud together. It's not about giving as much time as she wants. This is about you disengaging and detaching from what is of no concern to you or your current gf. Getting engaged is an important life commitment to someone. Start by focusing solely on you and your current gf instead engaging in drama that is of no positive consequence to you.
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