Lost on Jerseyshore Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I just want to call him today and tell him what a big, bad mistake that he has made and to come home and we will work everything out!!! Ugh... thought it was going to be easier everyday not harder...
ConfusedT Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 DONT DO IT!!!!! bad decision, im telling you. you are just going to cut open the wound a little more!!! stay strong! were here for ya!
antinko Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Yeh, unfortunately, nothing you can do or say will have any positive effect. It's got to come from him.
just_scott Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 soo if you want to call him and get stuff off your chest then call him BUT he's probabl gonna reply and it may not be the response you're wanting MAYBE your call will get him to thinking later on and he'll realize your right it's a gamble
ConfusedT Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 LOST! I am ok. I hope you didn't call.. but if you did, it's ok. Do the NC thing for yourself, but just to help heal yourself, not to get him back! Well this morning was terrible, but now I'm fine. It's like having two persons inside my body, it's crazy!!!! smile, you're beautiful!
FinOuch Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I just want to call him today and tell him what a big, bad mistake that he has made and to come home and we will work everything out!!! Ugh... thought it was going to be easier everyday not harder... DON'T DON'T DON'T!!! And it will start to get easier every day eventually!
Author Lost on Jerseyshore Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 I have not called, even though I want to... I just have to keep telling myself that he left our beautiful home, beautiful little family and beautiful relationship and beautiful life and if HE WANTED to be HERE he would. I cant change his thoughts I guess no matter how much I want to..... I need to get angry... and then maybe I will be able to let it go? The anger is just starting to boil to the top....
Rinas Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 You need to distract yourself, whether it be it be with work, friends or a hobby. Stay away from the phone. Don't look at it, keep it off. I understand that you're going through a hard time right now, but no contact is essential to moving on. You need to keep yourself busy. He left, and perhaps he will look back and see what he is missing in time, but you don't need to remind him or yourself of this. Your main focus should be on healing and bettering things for yourself. Take some time on you, don't worry about anyone else.
horizzon Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Words don't do anything. Silence is the best way to get a message through to someone. He won't say what you want him to. You will only get hurt.
LovelyDaze Posted August 16, 2011 Posted August 16, 2011 Words don't do anything. Silence is the best way to get a message through to someone. He won't say what you want him to. You will only get hurt. I'd like to run on that statement: Words don't do anything. Even if your ex DOES try to come back. It won't be the same. Words like I love you, I miss you and all of that mean nothing. They have to show you. How?? By giving you and them some distance to really think about what you both want out of relationship besides "each other." You will know "healthy" when you see it. It won't be soon. It takes time, growth and healing on both parts.
ConfusedT Posted August 17, 2011 Posted August 17, 2011 hey lost!!! how are you? today is OK for me. i passed my week goal, amazingly!! still sad and i miss him, but i think each day gives me a little more clarity on the situation and opens my eyes just a little bit more so i realize that i never deserved that or any of this! i hope all is well!
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