horizzon Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Yesterday i broke no contact. We broke up last Tuesday, over in the future he wants kids not in a marriage. I won't have kids in a marriage. My friends have been flaking out on me all weekend. This weekend him and i were to go on a vacation because i had so many days off. I called him asking about my computer battery because i couldn't find it. I said that we have been close friends for so long. So maybe we could grab coffee. He asked if i was asking him out on a date and i said no. I asked how he has been doing with the break up and he said alright. After i asked him about the coffee i asked if i should meet him at his place. And he said no he was going boating with his friend Alix. So maybe some other time he said. He told me he didn't want to be with me. He doesn't want to be with someone with my beliefs. That he doesn't want to be with me. Even when i asked EVER he said no don't want to be with you. That every time we take a break or we fight that it never changes. That i don't change. I asked what i haven't changed and he said i don't know i don't remember. I said that i would have an open mind about the kids thing and he said that is what he wanted. But i wouldn't do that. So i am just trying to change who i am to make him be with me. It's plain and clear. He never wants to be with me again. I said that he is going into college, he hasn't had enough experience. That his beliefs will change. And he said no, when you go into college yours will. Mine wont i'm an adult. Which is bs. He kept saying he had to go shower, and eventually hung up on me. He's a douche i know. he screws up his life, if you see my last post it goes into more detail. I know what i need is to escape with the pride i have left. He won't contact me for a long time.. Which hurts.
ConfusedT Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 he wont contact you because he knows you are there &/or he just really doesn't care, honestly. if he is telling you flat out he doesnt want to be with you (mine did the same thing) he really just doesnt want to be with you, regardless of the reasons, you shouldnt change your standards for someone else. i tried to and i ended up heartbroken because i wasnt being true to myself or him in a sense, i accepted more than i should and im sure you did too. only thing you can do to get a grasp on your emotions is not to contact him, it is hard, YESSSSSS, beyond hard, but you have to let go, he already has. i think it is easier for the dumper bc they already emotionally checked out, where as we are left to pick up all our pieces. will he miss you when your gone? YES will he care enough to call and come back? Maybe but i promise- time will heal you, but time is the hardest thing to deal with...
Nohbody Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Small consolation: we all stumble and fall on our faces from time to time. It's fine. Get back up and keep moving forward.
Author horizzon Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 It's hard. He tells his friends it won't work with me and him going to college. Nothing about the marriage deal. That i will be getting a new life and new friends. So it was about him just be scared :l He always says things that are flat out mean to only push me away and make me get away from him. He still has a profile picture of us hugging and me on his lap. He still has the sweater we designed for our 2 year anniversary that has our date on it and everything. So idk what to think. I know he is keeping these things because everyone mourns differently. And that he looks at the relationship with fond memories trying to remember the good things.
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