Flipper Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 If you just moved to a new town where you didn't know anyone, would your primary focus be on a social life or dating life? If both, which one first and/or which one is most important? And why?
Emilia Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Social life as it usually brings dating life with it. Everyone who uses online dating sites does that due to lack of relevant social life, right? If you meet enough members of the opposite sex in real life you don't need to do online dating.
Ross MwcFan Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Friends, as you'll get to meet lots of women through them. And some friendships with the gender you're attracted to can turn into something else anyway.
zengirl Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Friends. Though when I moved here, I coupled up almost immediately. I still made some friends, but it was less than I normally would and my social life only really flourished when that relationship ended. But friends are where it's at. . . they're way less volatile than relationships can be, and my friendships usually last.
CeeJ Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Social circle, for many, many reasons, but the primary reason is that having a life outside of a relationship (should any of your dates turn into more) is crucial.
Stung Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I have moved many, many times, and always sought new friendships first. It is important to have a social life outside of a romance, rather than trying to turn your one contact into a new town into everything for you. Friends can offer you support if the romance ends--or if the romantic interest turns out to be a little bit of a psycho. Also, with a wider social circle, you meet more pre-screened people = more opportunities to make a good selective match. Plus, simply put, there's nothing wrong with going without a boyfriend/girlfriend for a while, six months or even a year. I think that kind of alone time can actually be very constructive to someone who values and learns from introspection, offering new perspectives, and can be healing to anyone who suffers from poor judgment in mate selection or other relationship issues. Many people who would greatly benefit from not dating for at least six months, and getting to know themselves better while standing on their own two feet. However, not having any friendships for six months or even a year, nobody to talk to or socialize or explore your new surroundings with--that just sounds lonely, IMO.
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