Star Gazer Posted August 20, 2011 Posted August 20, 2011 Even when you pay lip service to the fact that something else might make another person happy, it's often with the implied aside that they're ascribing to a less ideal version of happiness that you would consider beneath you. Example: "Well I'd never date a guy who ____, but I know a lot of girls would..." EVERYONE does that, not just ZG...even you do it. In asserting our preferences for what we want in life, we obviously ascribe anything else to a less ideal version of happiness because it does not meet our personal standards. "I would never date a guy who doesn't ski or snowboard." - Me "I would never date a guy who has absolutely no appreciation for film." - You Preferences, that's it.
Author torn_curtain Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 EVERYONE does that, not just ZG...even you do it. In asserting our preferences for what we want in life, we obviously ascribe anything else to a less ideal version of happiness because it does not meet our personal standards. "I would never date a guy who doesn't ski or snowboard." - Me "I would never date a guy who has absolutely no appreciation for film." - You Preferences, that's it. That's not exactly what I meant. It goes beyond just stating preferences.
Author torn_curtain Posted August 20, 2011 Author Posted August 20, 2011 (edited) *subscribe to need to post when I'm more fully awake. Edited August 20, 2011 by torn_curtain
ThsAmericanLife Posted August 21, 2011 Posted August 21, 2011 I think ThisAmericanLife had a good point, but she initially said it in response to my post, which is ironic because I totally agree with her, and I think maybe she'd gotten the wrong idea of the situation I was describing. Naa. Just made me think of commitment topic... how people either want it or don't want it. I quoted you because you inspired my thought of it... that's all.
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