threebyfate Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 There's fiscally responsible and then there's cheap. This guy's cheap. I agree with A_C. His cheapness won't change and if you take a serious look at your relationship, his cheapness should be reflected in other ways. Bet he's selfish with his time or emotions. I'd honestly ditch this guy before you emotionally invest any further.
KathyM Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 months. I knew that he was the frugal type from the beginning but come on! He has a job, savings and two houses. Just to clarify I know I am the only woman in his life so he sure isn't spending it somewhere else. When we go out its the free concerts, dollar menus, and buy one get one free coupons. He has never spent more than $20.00 on a date. He is so cheap he bought a 4 day pass for Disney World and slept in his car! He spent 80 dollars today on a two day pass to a local amusement park that he went to on the way to his dads in another town. Yet, he can't take me out to the movies or to dinner. This guy is 45 years old. I know its not me his ex's all had the same issues with him. I'm just wondering how many women would put up with it? A guy like that would not interest me. Someone that is so occupied about money, to the detriment of enjoying life, is not someone enjoyable to be with. I'm not a high maintenance person. I don't expect to go to a lot of expensive places, or have a lot of money spent on a date. (I still date my husband once a week). Being conservative is one thing, but a guy that will nickle and dime you to death, and is never willing to spend money on a date, or extremely little money, is a drag on a relationship. Of course, I do believe a woman should sometimes pay for the date if she has a job that is anywhere near making what the guy makes. It's only fair. But a guy that is a true cheapskate is not fun. He sucks the joy out of life and puts too much importance on money. Not a good combination to have in a man.
Author Karenswalk Posted August 15, 2011 Author Posted August 15, 2011 (edited) Have you considered the possibility that there may be a connection between the two? Why do you expect him to be spending a lot of money on you? Don't you have a job? If you would of read the whole thread you would of seen I am unemployed and disabled. I am looking for work. I contribute to the relationship monetarily and by helping him in other areas. (Clerical stuff) Where did I say I wanted him to spend A LOT of money on me? All I am asking for is that we can go do something other than the drive thru dollar menu! You know as in actually going in and having a sit down lunch?!!! He has roommates in both houses. The money coming in more than pays for both mortgages and expenses with a house. Plus his savings is more than enough for any emergencies. Edited August 15, 2011 by Karenswalk
Lobster29 Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Like other people have said...he won't change. You need to decide whether you are will to accept that.
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