sweet honey eyes Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 A couple weeks ago I found this site and I posted the following, more or less: I was daing a 40-year-old guy for 18months. He lived in my house even though I was not ready for it. He has a 10yo son with serious behavioral issues. He decided he wanted to go on vacations to his country with his son. No invitation to me. Nothing. On top of it, he had a facebook account which I was not allowed to see, and he refused to post pics of me or to add me as a friend. I was hurt and angry. And I asked for comments... Now he is back. He returned on Thursday (three days ago). He brought me flowers, a nice card and nice presents... On Friday, my next door neighbor invited us to have BBQ, which we did... My boyfriend acted weird, saying that my neighbor -married and totally loyal to his wife, who is my friend too!- that he was flirting with me.. FRIDAY RUINED... Saturday, we went to the beach, had a great dinner and on our way back home he said that what he did going to his country with his son for one month on vacation, was exactly the same as I did when I went to see my oldest son, who is in college five hours away from home for a weekend... SATURDAY RUINED... Sunday, he asked to see my facebook account, which I rarely use it. I told him, ok but I wanted to see his first. He said he did not have it anymore, which I suspected it was not true, as it was only deactivated... Anyway, account reactivated and I could only see three pictures of a man having a great time (he closed the program right away) and told me that, even though he told me he was sad and serious during the whole month he was on vacations "what did you expect? I was on vacations with my family?"... I told him to get out of my house, that I was sick of him.. and read what he happened next: First he started pretending he was throwing up... I told him to continue vomiting at his 20yo male friend's home where he has had a room there, because I was going to the beach. Then he said that he was having a problem with his heart.. I told him I will take him to the hospital on my way to the beach... obvioulsy, he refused... Then I reached the limit and I told him to get out!.. He said he was not going anywhere... I had to dial 911 and put my finger on the "call" buttom.... He finally left... But before he did, he said that I needed an exorcism.. because I was not the loving woman he knew... He also said "no contact anymore..." I said GREAT... He called two hours later.. I didnt answer the phone and I won't anymore... When I posted here for the first time, your comments helped me a lot.. but I was not strong enough.. Now, I'm determined to be.. I have to end this insane relationship! I MUST BE STRONG AND NO CONTACT IS A MUST, I know.... One day, I'll be happy I ended this crazy relationship, right?
dreamingoftigers Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 YES YES YOU WILL. Even if it didn't end can you imagine how this guy would be if ANY life challenges came your way... Jeez.
geegirl Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 One day, I'll be happy I ended this crazy relationship, right? You already identify it as crazy. No sane person wants a crazy relationship. You're doing the right thing. It doesn't seem that way because as big of a douchebag he is, you have emotions for him. And that's fine but it doesn't justify keeping yourself in such a toxic situation. One day when you meet someone healthy who will reciprocate lovingly towards you, you will be grateful you ended the crazy! Better yet, picture a healthy relationship in your head and if it does not tally with what you've had with this man, you're doing the right thing because most times the bad does won't get any better.
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