Ddeepprreesseedd Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I am curios about your opinion on this, since I've been musing about this for some time now. Since humans are habitual creatures I wonder what is the REAL point of coupling? From biological standpoint it's a drive for sex/procreation. From societal standpoint it is a benefit of living in community/togetherness. From religious stand point (for some) it's the right thing to do. But what is it that we really look for in relationship and do we really know the right reason? Why does it hurt so much when it doesn't work out? Why is coupling so essential for happiness?
Cee Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I believe it's the sex, cuddling, and release of pleasure hormone that makes coupling so appealing. I don't understand it, but it must be something instinctual. Perhaps it's not only about procreating, but surviving. Maybe sleeping with someone in a cave was good for warmth and protection. And, oh, it feels so good in the modern comforts of homes and beds. You can think that FWB is sex and cuddling, but it's not as good, imo. I think FWB lacks the honesty, stability, and consistency that a good relationship has. I think coupling is socially constructed to meet certain needs. I believe other models such as polyamory would work for some, but coupling is more established. And for me, it's what I prefer.
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