SJC2008 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Finally got a Sun. off so went out with the boys last night. We were sitting at at a booth and a girl came and sat with us and introduced herself to us. She asked me if I like to dance (she was sitting next to me) and of course I said mabye if I could but I don't dance. A couple of minutes later she left. Anyway, not to say if a chick dances with you means your'e gonna get a # or a date but I'm sure it helps your chances. But I DON'T dance, I have ZERO rythm. A few years ago a girl litteraly dragged me to the dance floor and I felt like a fool. Should I start dancing? Does it really help your chances alot or just a little?
Eddie Edirol Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 It doesnt help your chances if you wont enjoy dancing if youre dragged on the floor. On the other hand, if youre having a good time when youre dragged on the floor, even when you know you look idiotic, that is different. Being spontaneous and fun to hang with goes a longer way-so its not really about the dancing.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 It sure seems your story might have turned out better if you had said yes and perhaps asked her to dance (if it was appropriate in that venue). Personally, I love it. It's a great night out. I don't know how old you are but dancing is something that sorta comes with moving on from hanging with the guys. Think of an image of yourself you'd like to live up to and create it as dance. Get yourself the appropriate other accoutrements too--some neat clothes and a quaff. I'd much rather dance on a first date than anything--shows each other what ya got. Just do it. Sometimes females are self-conscious too about all that.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Dancing makes your chances go through the roof. Considering the proportion of guys that don't dance, you will be like a king. I am amazed how many guys don't realize this and improve their odds astronomically.
cerridwen Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Dancing makes your chances go through the roof. Considering the proportion of guys that don't dance, you will be like a king. I am amazed how many guys don't realize this and improve their odds astronomically. Completely agree. It's a sexy, attractive skill. Consider taking some lessons, OP.
jackmerridew Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Even if you look stupid, it doesn't matter. It just shows that you are down for anything, and that you are confident enough to go out there and look like a fool. I'm a bad dancer too. But dancing helps your chances like crazy. And of course, if you're a better dancer, for some reason women interpret that as being good in bed, especially if you're able to grind up on them in rhythm. Many of my sexual conquests have always started out on the dance floor. Go to a crowded club where no one will even see you. If you're attractive enough for a girl to drag you to a dance floor, it will happen again, and this time just go do it. Watch some videos online and copy their moves for some rudimentary steps.
PratyekaYana Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Dancing makes your chances go through the roof. Considering the proportion of guys that don't dance, you will be like a king. I am amazed how many guys don't realize this and improve their odds astronomically. Truer words never spoken, and more often than not it doesn't take a great deal of time or money invested to gain at least presentable skill on the dance floor. It's a fantastic skill to have under your belt both personally (in that it gives you a greater kinesthetic awareness and a boost in self-confidence) and socially.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 You may wish to avoid The Polka however....
sally4sara Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Yes it helps your odds - if you can do it well enough to not look like you're having a seizure or reenacting one of those SNL skits. If you can't manage to avoid that don't bother; it will hurt your odds. Take a class or two about how to find the 2 and the 4 and you'll be just fine.
ascendotum Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 (edited) Even if you look stupid, it doesn't matter. It just shows that you are down for anything, and that you are confident enough to go out there and look like a fool. Watch some videos online and copy their moves for some rudimentary steps. I'm not so sure about this. I feel I've definitely blown my chances by being a crappy & self concious dancer on the floor. S4S opinion is along this line. I'm not saying your situation does not apply much more often than not but I guess it depends on how sexy you are to compensate. But being able to dance is definitely a plus. Completely agree. It's a sexy, attractive skill. Consider taking some lessons, OP. I remember looking around for dance lessons yrs ago, but all I seemed to find were places that were doing traditional dance styles. You can't do the salsa, foxtrot or folk dancing at a techno club or top 40 hits bar. I ended up watching music videos to pick up some moves but would have liked to have a good teacher. Edited August 15, 2011 by ascendotum
sm1tten Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I don't mind if a guy doesn't like to dance or isn't good at it; it's the attitude that he has about it that matters. Like if he's sulky or angry in situations where there might be dancing, etc. I actually don't really enjoy dancing as much now as I did when I was younger so take my opinion with a grain of salt.
Cypress25 Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I'm a woman and I don't like to dance, so it's definitely not essential for men to like dancing. Just avoid dance clubs, and then you won't have to worry about women asking you to dance. There are plenty of women out there who hate dancing as much as you do.
Ginger Beer Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 When you say take dance lessons, what sort of dancing? Dance is a very large word, there are several types of dancing.
ptp Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I am not sure where this was and how old you are but, if this was a typical bar where I live, with a 20 or 30 something girl chances are that her idea of dancing is grinding her butt into your groin area. Not sure why you would need lessons for that.
Cracker Jack Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I always had a feeling this was sorta important. I have a skill level of 0 when it comes to dancing.
Ginger Beer Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 I am not sure where this was and how old you are but, if this was a typical bar where I live, with a 20 or 30 something girl chances are that her idea of dancing is grinding her butt into your groin area. Not sure why you would need lessons for that. ................
rafallus Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 It's a double edged sword. It can improve your chances, or it can make you look worse than before. Depends, how you dance obviously.
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