wreckedhero Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 And proceeded to tell me that she's meeting up with her ex and that they text each other every day. But hey nothings going on, they are just friends. I don't know what to think and I don't know what to do. Obviously I've remained no contact but it does bother me. I told her on the phone that even though we are single that I wouldnt get back with her even if she wanted to. Am I justifed in this and what were her motives for telling me this? She's dumped me and now she's torturing me with this information. The thing is whilst we were together he used to stir endlessly, told her I was cheating on her and used to send abusive texts to her. I told her at the end of the conversation to leave me alone and give me space and so far she has done. Oh yeah she sent me a blank text the day they met up. It's killing me now not the fact we arent together but what's going on between them. Am I a paranoid looney or am I right in thinking something dodgy's going on when after we split up they start meeting again. Feel like rubbish again and it's hardly my fault. What do I think and what do I do?
2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Tell her to politely F.O. or you will be looking at pressing harassment charges! 2011
Author wreckedhero Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 So I'm not paranoid for thinking that somethings going on?
Buttercup84 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I think she is very insecure and needs her other ex to make her feel better . she obviously has issues . Don't let her treat you like that ! She might not even meet up with him , could be a lie .
Author wreckedhero Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Just right back to square one now. I've no doubt that she's meeting up with him. All I need to know now is the confirmation that they are sleeping together. I want to move on but she won't let me. Nasty bitch that she is. Today's been the worst day by far. Ex's dont meet up if they arent going to do anything and if she think's I will ever be in touch with her again then she is very very silly.
Chi townD Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Breadcrumbs....what does she expect? You to be the Knight in shining armor to stop her from contacting her Ex? Having you tell her that's a huge mistake because you've just been sitting by the phone hoping she'll call while you watch life pass you by? Immmature and worth ignoring.
Author wreckedhero Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 Hmm how do I get over the fact that since we have ended she's gone back to him. For my sanity and peace of mind more than anything else?
NursingGirl Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Tell her to F.O. ! 2011 Sorry, I altered the quote to fit my needs! Don't answer numbers you don't know and block hers. Don't speak to her ever again, she sounds beyond awful.
Kilty Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 CHANGE your number and/or get a new phone. Lose all ability for her to contact you 100% otherwise you will be back here every other couple of weeks. I sincerely hope you have not broken no contact and given her any encouragement to be doing this to you - and by that i mean even the slightest reply to anything she has texted you or even answered any of her calls ........... as for this to be happening out the blue is not only cruel but shows how fecked up she is. However eventually as said above you will need to play the anger card and tell her to completely F - Off or you will be taking it further. You do not need to elaborate - the threat of taking it further should get her mind thinking of restraining orders and the law and that should be enough. Failing that then you do just that. Also you do not want to know anything about what she is doing and who with. Not from her and not from anyone else. There is no point obsessing over it - she is history and can do what she wants - you aint going to be able to stop it. Get yourself exercising - easy way is get a bike - and get out and meet someone much better - frankly it wont be hard.
just_scott Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 soon as you heard her voice you should have hung up pretty easy to do BUT ya didn't and let her talk and tell you she's gonna be hooking up with her ex ,YOU should have said cool my ex is here right now and i don't want to be rude to her so i'm gonna say goodbye . break up and ex's calling especially telling you their gonna be hooking up with their ex is just a GAME nyways soo have fun with it
geegirl Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I believe the last time you stated that if she were to come back again to play games with you, you will be changing your number. I told you that you will never be able to control her actions and if you are not strong enough to avoid her, then changing your number is your next step. You said yourself that would be what you will be doing next. Will you follow through or keep doing this to yourself?
lymtal1 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Here is the deal. It is quite simple. You can make it such that she can't find you. Now make that happen and start to heal. I went through the exact same thing just two weeks ago. I was just holding onto what I perceived as hope. Hope in this instance kills you. Once I changed my phone and blocked her and ALL her friends from my life I have felt a sense of relief everyday. It still hurts but I have now taken back control of the situation and put the power of my life in my hands. The power is not her's any longer. Now this was not easy and I still hurt each day. However, each day that I know that there will be no contact what-so-ever makes me feel like I am in control of my life. My mindset right now is I plan on never seeing talking or running into her ever again. That is a very tough realization but not one good thing can come from having any idea what is going on with her. If at some point in time and when I am ready I see her, hear from her in some miracle of a way or run into one of her friends it will be months down the road when she will not matter and when I am in a better place to deal with it. DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO FALL OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH AT THIS VERY MINUTE.
LovelyDaze Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Here is the deal. It is quite simple. You can make it such that she can't find you. Now make that happen and start to heal. I went through the exact same thing just two weeks ago. I was just holding onto what I perceived as hope. Hope in this instance kills you. Once I changed my phone and blocked her and ALL her friends from my life I have felt a sense of relief everyday. It still hurts but I have now taken back control of the situation and put the power of my life in my hands. The power is not her's any longer. Now this was not easy and I still hurt each day. However, each day that I know that there will be no contact what-so-ever makes me feel like I am in control of my life. My mindset right now is I plan on never seeing talking or running into her ever again. That is a very tough realization but not one good thing can come from having any idea what is going on with her. If at some point in time and when I am ready I see her, hear from her in some miracle of a way or run into one of her friends it will be months down the road when she will not matter and when I am in a better place to deal with it. DO WHATEVER YOU HAVE TO DO TO FALL OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH AT THIS VERY MINUTE. Very well said! wreckedhero, you should not entertain any of her games by responding to her strange behavior. Why should you know anything about what she is going to do with ANYBODY?? My ex from 2 years ago dumped me for a girl he met while vacationing. They did marry and just this past July filed for divorce. Well, my ex occasionally would text me with invites to "hang out as friends" and other nonsense. I didn't take the bait and still haven't as he asked if we could try "just one more time." That is a dream for all of us dumpees but what we must do when an ex comes back is to be in a place of indifference before we respond yes or no to ANYTHING they ask. And yes, after 2 years ago, I am indifferent to the ex that nearly destroyed my heart. I could easily tell him this final time to please not call me anymore. That not only felt good but I truly meant it. You want a healthy, happy relationship. No one deserves lapping up crumbs with a bag full of low self esteem and low self worth on their back. Do the hard work. You know deep inside that she is not treating you right so don't allow her to use you as a backup plan or soft shoulder to whine on. Take care of you and let her reap her own mistakes.
just_scott Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 . Once I changed my phone and blocked her and ALL her friends from my life I have felt a sense of relief everyday. It still hurts but I have now taken back control of the situation and put the power of my life in my hands. The power is not her's any longer. Now this was not easy and I still hurt each day. However, each day that I know that there will be no contact what-so-ever makes me feel like I am in control of my life. HOW the heck is doing what you've done even considerd ''taking back control'' , sounds more like dodging and hiding YOU want real ''CONTROL'' tell your ex to her [or his] face in plain english [or whatever language you may speak] ''do not call or contact me '' YOU give them on shot , they don't abide by your request you take yourself to the nearest police station you slap a ''NO CONTACT'' order on them BET they wont be contacting you after that AND you'd be in total control cause you called the shot changing your phone number ,having to re put all your phone contacts into another phone and let everyone know you have a new number,and blocking people from contacting you ,sounds like some school game PLUS is extremly easy for your ex or anyone else to get your phone number anyways what happens if she or they do you gonna go through the hassle of changing it every time
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