Misar7 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I had a post of my story here http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t292264/ What makes this so hard is having no one close to me who understands or has been through this kind of thing..no one understands..the friends I have are happily married with kids never have had any major break ups or anything. Close family same thing..I would love to talk to my mom but she don't get it either she and my dad have been together since they were 17. No one I personally know has been cheated on or left and they are all in such happy settled places in their lives being that I am 34 and been in a relationship for the past 8 yrs I don't have any single friends..and I can't talk to any of them and I tried to go out last night to dinner and have a nice time with ppl but being with couples and their kids it made me much worse I actually could not wait to get home. Then I did something really stupid and contacted him only for him to be rude to me and make me feel much worse. That is basically why I am here I have no one to really talk to and I don't even want to be around anyone I know cause I just feel pain.
HardknockLife Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I understand your pain. When i broke off with ex like 4 years ago. I felt like i dont belong in the society, all i wanted was being alone, didnt want to contact anyone or see anyone. But the truth is, youre only hurting yourself, in the past years i have realized that you shouldnt wait or cry for a person who wouldnt do the same for you. Im here if you need to talk.
Queen of Hearts 10 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Hello ! Well this is a great site for comfort and a good laugh ! Some really great writers on here. I'm also new to the site and just divorced a man I love. Any way we are now in a dry land trying to survive. I don't want to be here either !!! The truth is ugly ! Our men don't want to be a part of our lives any longer ! It's a defeat we will have to endure. When I make contact with him the same thing happens he is rude and short. We have been apart for a year now. He doesn't have a girlfriend yet but he will he is very handsome. I miss him every day and some days are better than others. It's a ping pong effect. Up and down days. I think of him 24/7. I have only been able to stay away for 2 months ! Rejection and hope~~~Depression then a small elation ! He is unattainable lost forever. But I can Love him from afar unconditionally. He is in my Heart of Hearts forever. Lots of tears, sadness, and unrelenting grief !!
Mcnulty Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 There's lots of people here for you. You're not alone in your pain or the experience you're going through. Here to listen and support you if you need to talk. You know, you say that everyone is coupled up and happy...not so I bet, people are all different and at different points in relationships and their lives. If you reach out, you'll be suprised how much empathy people will give you.
january2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 It's early days. You're probably still shellshocked and so it's understandable that you feel alone and that no one really 'gets' what you're going through. However, that doesn't mean that people haven't learnt to survive their own private pain - lessons that they can draw on to help you through yours. Let people listen and give you a shoulder to lean on when things get tough. Don't dismiss them just because their experiences don't exactly mirror your own. They love you and I'm sure would want to support and be there for you. It might not seem like it, but right now you need more people around you so that you can feel connected again. Go out and force yourself to smile but also excuse yourself and let the grief take you when it becomes overwhelming. It won't always be like this. Before you know it, you'll be smiling more and grieving less. It just takes time. Edit: And if you haven't done so already, get tested for STDs. Better to be safe than sorry.
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