Scarlett513 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 So I hooked up with a friend of mine at a wedding. We have known each other a long time (ten years or so), but have recently started developing a more solid friendship. We've always been flirtatious and I've known for awhile that I do have some attraction to him. However we've been friends so long I guess I'm a little confused about how I feel. He is an absolutely fantastic guy. I guess I sort of knew this would happen sooner or later but now I'm there and I don't know how to handle the situation. We were both pretty drunk, and single at a wedding in a sea of couples. The encounter was more emotionally intimate than I would have thought. He was very tender and we talked about how we wouldn't be weird the next day. Then we woke up and it's like it never happened. Neither of us has mentioned it since, which feels weird, but so does bringing it up. He's my friend and while I'm worried about messing with that, I also have these other feelings for him. I have no idea whether it meant anything to him or if he just wants to forget it happened... I just don't know what to do.
Professor X Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I think you've crossed the line of no return with the friendship the moment you slept. How about you just give him a call and talk about it? I don't know why you want to pretend it never happened when it DID and when you both enjoyed it too. I can never understand why people play these silly silly games about such trivial things in life.
Author Scarlett513 Posted August 14, 2011 Author Posted August 14, 2011 I agree, I don't like games either. I'm not playing s game here, and I doubt he is, either. I just don't want to make things awkward. If I bring it up then I might seem needy or alienate him. I don't want to further damage our friendship by putting him in the position where he has to tell me it was purely physical for him. Nor do I want to put myself in an awkward position of having put my heart on my sleeve, and having to still see him when we hang out in our group of friends.
Professor X Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I just don't want to make things awkward. The awkward part was the point where you saw each other naked for the first time and you're long past it. I don't want to further damage our friendship The "damage" already has been done. by putting him in the position where he has to tell me it was purely physical for him. Nor do I want to put myself in an awkward position of having put my heart on my sleeve, and having to still see him when we hang out in our group of friends. Well, I'm pretty sure that when you'll hang out as a group you won't be looking at him the same way and at some point (if you haven't started now) you will be wondering what if... I just hope that by than one of you have made the move and won't regret when it's to late.
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