quietGuy13 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I have bones bones like a skeleton. that's how i am. I eat well and i even have flab but still overall i'm bones and i'm weak. and smal frame. Most girls have much more muscle than i do and big nice thighs. So whenever i've been close to a woman( which is almost never) I seem much weaker than her( and i am). Not only that but i'm actually am weaker in the ssense that I'm often scared. Like i go outside and I am scared of gangsters. or being shot. or getting robbed etc Anyways, what do women think of guys like this?
Pierre Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I have bones bones like a skeleton. that's how i am. I eat well and i even have flab but still overall i'm bones and i'm weak. and smal frame. Most girls have much more muscle than i do and big nice thighs. So whenever i've been close to a woman( which is almost never) I seem much weaker than her( and i am). Not only that but i'm actually am weaker in the ssense that I'm often scared. Like i go outside and I am scared of gangsters. or being shot. or getting robbed etc Anyways, what do women think of guys like this? If the woman is never on top you should be ok.
FitChick Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I have bones bones like a skeleton. That's what a skeleton is -- bones!
richardwordoff Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) Why don't you just get in the gym and put on some muscle instead of (what it seems like) trying to justify being weak and skinny? There are lots of things in life you can't change but this is NOT one of them. If you've never lifted before you can probably gain 30 pounds in less than a year if you eat well and are on a good program. Edited August 14, 2011 by richardwordoff
Ginger Beer Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I used to be like that. You don't eat enough. No matter how much you might think you do, you really don't. Get in the gym. Do your research and read up on what you need to do then do it. It's not hard. Being skinnier than a girl is common anyway, being weaker however isn't. I don't think you'd be weaker, even if you're skinny you could still probably beat most girls up.
Dust Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 The right woman will like you for who you are. It’s your job to like yourself no matter what.
SillyS Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 If its something about yourself that bothers you, then fix it. Don't worry about the opposite sex, we are a large and diverse group. Some of us are more superficial than others, but at the end of the day there are plenty of woman that wouldn't care or would prefer that over the muscle heads that have nothing upstairs or downstairs.
nandesuka Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Get yourself to a gym! Or just workout at home. Does your skinniness bother you? I see chicks with skinnier dudes than them all the time. Shouldn't be a problem except with some superficial girls. Get yourself on the bodybuilding and exercise sites/forums and get to a gym. This isn't something you can't change about yourself. You can change this aspect of yourself. And beginners usually make some great gains in the gym!
Imajerk17 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 (edited) There's no reason that you can't at least do pushups, sit-ups, and run. Unless you are in a wheelchair or something, that is. I understand you have things to deal with that a lot of others don't have, but at some point you need to start taking responsibility for your life and improving it. There are some such things you can do, like the aforementioned working out. This proactive attitude is not coming through in your threads, and this is the big reason why some people on here are so mean to you. Edited August 14, 2011 by Imajerk17
lonelyheartbeat Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 I agree with most things already said. I come from a family where we actually have a bit of a problem with being thin and skinny. My father was always on the thin/skinny side. My older brother and myself are skeletal thin. I don't know if this is due to family traits or my anxiety issue. Or both. In any event, we're all on the slim side. However, my older brother, whom I just mentioned, met someone whom he's been with for a year and they have plans to get married. He's taller than her, but a heck of a lot skinnier. She on the other hand, is much shorter, but has a bit of weight on her. Do either of them care? Not really. So I'm with whomever said that if you meet the right girl, it won't matter. And yes, if you're that self-conscious about it, try working out. My brother has been doing that and we've all noticed he's put on weight and seems a lot stronger. He'll never be Arnold or anything like that, but it's something. Go for it!
triphopper414 Posted August 14, 2011 Posted August 14, 2011 Date a girl who is petite. Definitely eat protein. I know some guys who are in the same boat as you. They tend to mask their lack of masculine frame with clothes and it is cleverly done so (wearing multiple t-shirts, jeans that are looser in the leg). Eat protein and just exercise. Just be healthy. If you just be yourself and embrace your skinniness, your confidence will show through and you will get the ladies.
Cypress25 Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 For your own health, you should start weight training and eating properly. Exercise isn't just for weight loss. Your heart is a muscle, remember. Don't let your muscles waste away, that's very unhealthy. Personally, I could not date a guy who's skinnier than me. Not because there's anything wrong with him, but because it would make me feel self-conscious. I'm a normal weight, so if the guy is skinnier than me, that means he's underweight and that's not attractive to me. I don't want to hug a guy and feel bones jutting out.
Mr. Slim Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Just make sure you are healthy and whatever changes you make, make them for YOU. Sure, becoming a musclehead will make you attractive to a certain group of women... while simulataneously removing you from the group of women who don't like them. I only weight about 170, and that's immediately after leaving the buffet. But it hasn't stopped me from having normal relationships... and it shouldn't stop you, either.
Richard Friedman Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 The right woman will like you for who you are. It’s your job to like yourself no matter what. Horrific advise. If you have shortcomings address them. This kind of self esteem generation crap might work in disney movie, but in real life you'll be a virgin in the bread line. But hey at least you'll have your individuality
AHardDaysNight Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 The right woman will like you for who you are. It’s your job to like yourself no matter what. This. And some women like skinny men. No women like fat men, though, apparently.
rafallus Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 Horrific advise. If you have shortcomings address them. This kind of self esteem generation crap might work in disney movie, but in real life you'll be a virgin in the bread line. But hey at least you'll have your individuality Amen! That uplifting "just be yourself", "they should like you for who you are" crap is seriously being taken way, way, way too far. Tell it to couch potatos, that they don't need to do anything else, and women should like them for who they are. Yeah, right...
AHardDaysNight Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 So all women are attracted to Jersey Shore lookalikes, and nobody else? So all men are attracted to skinny blondes with big boobs, and nothing else? I find all that really ridiculous, rafallus.
rafallus Posted August 15, 2011 Posted August 15, 2011 How did you figure that out? Life is not black and white, and there are many shades of grey on couch-potato - Jersey Shore look-a-like continuum. What's so wrong with working out and taking care of yourself? And how does it even mean that you aren't being yourself, if you do?
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